Biased in Clashes

Well, it is not a story but an embarrassing feeling of guilt, as I feel I might also have been biased (to some extent) in the past clashes / disagreements…etc.

Just to give you an idea of what I want to say, I would start with an example of few threads in Lifestyles forum.

When you read (on forum) or listen to a person’s disastrous story (in real life) who have been made a victom in any way, don’t you feel uncomfortable due to the fact that you only know one side of the story, which might have been presented to you in a *twisted *(un real) way to gain sympathese / support against the opponent. I usually easily believe one side of the story (which has been presented to me in a way that seems realistic) and sometimes later get a jerk / shock when later I am able to find out the other side of the story.

Question:

Do you feel that while dealing with any kind of clash, when we are explaining ourselves to a third person / party, we might tend to not mention "those details", which might go against us / or (in few cases)might even cause misunderstanding against us in that (third) person’s mind ?

or

You present the whole story 100 % true (including everything that goes against you, but is based on truth) as ofcourse we (by default) do mention the whole stuff that support us and go against our opponents.

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^ Interesting! Well i can say for myself that i do try and include all the relevant details including the ones which might go against me. BUT even while being honest i might not be saying what exactly might be the truth....lol meaning at times i might feel it wasnt my fault but its a subjective matter so in that case the other person might be feeling the same way...
do i make any sense?

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^ Yes sister, mashaAllah your point is very logical. Thanks for sharing.

What if your opponent is hiding the "details" which support you. In that case would you still mention the details which support your opponent (and are against you) ?

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^ ofcourse i would because if i wouldnt than how would i justify against him not including those details about me. Even if people dont get to find out but as a person i wouldnt be able 2 do away with accusing somebody of something which i am gonna be doing myself.

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^ Well said. JazakAllah khair sister for the reply.

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thank-you :)