Bhabees

Lifestyle Relationships
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How much khidmat from them is appropriate?

I feel ashamed if my bhabee tries to do anything for me like cook something or ironing clothes, and I always avoid such situations.

The same is true for the rest of the family.

Is there any chance she considers it rude or unwelcoming?

(btw. I forgot the english word for bhabee, is it sister in law? )

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Bhabhi is either used for your brothers wife, or (if ur a girl), her husbands brother's wife.

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thanks. (for not closing this thread :))

So there is no word in english for bhabhi?

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no. they dont have any concept of "bhabi" :)

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sister-in-law.

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:omg:

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**why should she be doing “khidmat” ??..

and yes it is very inappropriate for all devars and jeths to expect any sort of khidmat from bhabhis..they should think 100000 times b4 asking for any favor from her…**

:snooty:

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I dont know how much is expected from them...but in our culture, bhabhi, especially the eldest one, is supposed to be second to "mother"...so if the devars/jaith are unmarried and living with her, then yes khidmat is expected for the most part......

In my experience, my devar/jaiths were all married so I never had to do any khidmat...tho if they werent and they lived with me I would....my own bhabhi didnt do a damn thing..:)

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:omg:

sara you are not khidmat kind… you are thukai lagany wali kind… like one of my older SIL slapped my little brother :smiley: he was 6’ 1" and SIL was 5 some thing :smiley:

I could not be more thank full to SIL, because she did what we all wanted yayyyyyyyyyyy :aisha:

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But what I am saying is opposite to it. I don’t ask for it, I try to avoid it.

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Second to mother??? :eek:

And who is considered the eldest one? eldest according to her own age or the one who is married to the eldest sibling?

And what if the eldest one is younger than me, is she still second to mother?

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u r a good devar niceusman :k:

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You don’t know me, so keep your assumptions to yourself. :slight_smile:

I dunno, but yes I have heard of it being said that way..like she takes the responsibilities of taking care of younger/unmarried devars. at least htats how it is in the traditional joint family setup.
Usually its the one whose married to the eldest brother/the first one to get married.

I don’t think the woman’s age here matters, what matters is the age of the man she’s married to…

Living in Pakistan I thought one would know these things :slight_smile:

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wait .. a girl's --> brother's --> wife would be her bhabi, makes sense but .... a girl's --> husband's --> brother's --> wife, she would also be her bhabi ??

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You're such a sweet devar...:)

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My mistake.....I mean technically she's jethani but she's called "bhabi"

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:eek:

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Yep, my devranis also call me Bhabi.

My devar was living with me when he was unmarried and of course, I used to cook and sometimes make tea for him (when he was tired or asked me), but did not iron clothes or do any of his personal chores ..... that would be weird plus I was already working full-time myself, so didn't have time anyway :p.

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^ tum kitni achi bhabi thi :k:

My bhabi never brings gifts for me when she comes back from other city. I keep on asking her about my gifts but she always say that next time yaad se le aaongi

Next time bhi nahi laati :frowning:

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^ It could be ur brother stopping her from buying anything :)