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Don't let him notice your arms, try distracting him with something else.
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speak openly on the subject with him and he should not care much about this. Or if he backs out, this will tell you that he was not the right guy for you.
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Did your fiance take his shirt off so that you could inspect his body? If people cared so much about stretch marks, moles, blemishes, etc. then no one would get married!!! When a guy meets a girl, wouldn't a girl try her best to cover up her blemishes with makeup? And then when they get married and the guy sees that she has blemishes, do you think it would be acceptable for him to dump her? Your stretch marks are such a non-issue. Are you paralyzed? Have some STD that he doesn't know about? Have a mental illness? These are bigger things that affect a marriage. You're fiance probably isn't perfectly chiseled. No one is. Plus, women get stretch marks after having kids. Wouldn't it sound stupid if a guy left his wife because of stretch marks she got after having his kids?
Boost your confidence! He's marrying YOU and there's more to you than your upper arms :)
I know where you are coming from, but I just find it hard to accept I have them on my arms, I mean nobody else seems to have them on their arms, I'm like the only exception around. It's so annoying, argh!
And Hareem, how can I distract him with something else, it's going to be difficult, don't you think??
For the others who are telling me to tell him....I REALLY DON'T WANT TO!!!!
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Hey DP I have those on my upper arms, a lot of girls get them during the puberty stage, I have never really felt bad about those stretch marks, to be honest. And yes I used to wear short sleeves.
My husband never seemed to care about those marks and I'm sure most men won't mind them unless someone has some sort of stretch mark phobia.
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Lol, thanks hareem, I thought you were actually being serious. 
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Putthi Kalabaazian Laan Lag Jaana!
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Why am I surprised that someone named "DIsneY Princess" is posting something like this?
With all due respect, why are you surprised? Princesses aren't supposed to have stretch marks? Should she have named herself the Ugly Duckling?
As for the OP,
Men generally don't care about things like that. If he chose to make you his significant other and spend the rest of his life with you, then he must've seen traits that are more important than something as minor as stretch marks. You need to boost your confidence and know that these marks don't take away from your beauty and doesn't change who you are.
I would still suggest you tell him beforehand, bring it up in a casual conversation so you're not worried about it all this time until you're married and he knows you had nothing to hide. I'm not saying this because the stretch marks itself are a big deal but to give you a peace of mind. If he likes you genuinely and really wants to spend his life with you, then inshallah he will stick by and will help in building your confidence back, and if (very low chance) he turns out to be one of those rareeee few douchebags who makes a big deal out of it, then I'd say it's a good thing you figured him out before it was too late and were married to him already.
I was going to write a personal issue I had, but I think this should do.
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No they are not in getting to know phase. OP is not in contact with fiance. their baat is alreay pakki.
In this situation she can only depends on her parents.
that wud be so odd.
I bet he has a third nipple or something - no one is perfect.
lols.
With all due respect, why are you surprised? Princesses aren't supposed to have stretch marks? Should she have named herself the Ugly Duckling?
As for the OP, Men generally don't care about things like that. If he chose to make you his significant other and spend the rest of his life with you, then he must've seen traits that are more important than something as minor as stretch marks. You need to boost your confidence and know that these marks don't take away from your beauty and doesn't change who you are. I would still suggest you tell him beforehand, bring it up in a casual conversation so you're not worried about it all this time until you're married and he knows you had nothing to hide. I'm not saying this because the stretch marks itself are a big deal but to give you a peace of mind. If he likes you genuinely and really wants to spend his life with you, then inshallah he will stick by and will help in building your confidence back, and if (very low chance) he turns out to be one of those rareeee few douchebags who makes a big deal out of it, then I'd say it's a good thing you figured him out before it was too late and were married to him already.
Well said.
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With all due respect, why are you surprised? Princesses aren't supposed to have stretch marks? Should she have named herself the Ugly Duckling?
As for the OP, Men generally don't care about things like that. If he chose to make you his significant other and spend the rest of his life with you, then he must've seen traits that are more important than something as minor as stretch marks. You need to boost your confidence and know that these marks don't take away from your beauty and doesn't change who you are. I would still suggest you tell him beforehand, bring it up in a casual conversation so you're not worried about it all this time until you're married and he knows you had nothing to hide. I'm not saying this because the stretch marks itself are a big deal but to give you a peace of mind. If he likes you genuinely and really wants to spend his life with you, then inshallah he will stick by and will help in building your confidence back, and if (very low chance) he turns out to be one of those rareeee few douchebags who makes a big deal out of it, then I'd say it's a good thing you figured him out before it was too late and were married to him already.
I was going to write a personal issue I had, but I think this should do.
Erm because "Disney princesses" have nothing better to worry about and act like a few stretchmarks are the end of the world :-)
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Are you serious? What wl they say? Listen, we need to tell you that our daughter has stretch marks on her arms which might disattract your son away so yah RECONSIDER?!
Hahahahahahahaha i thought of the same when i read OP's post.
Seriously, it's nothing, a lot of women AND men have them, don't see what you should feel that you have to tell anybody.
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I know where you are coming from, but I just find it hard to accept I have them on my arms, I mean nobody else seems to have them on their arms, I'm like the only exception around
No you're not
loads of people have stretch marks on their decolleté and breasts too, so i wouldn't say upper arms are the worst place to have them.
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that wud be so odd.
lol i can imagine that conversation in my mind's eye
girls mom to boys mom: suniye aapse ek baat discuss karni thi kuch samajh mein nahin aata kaise bataun
boy's mom: bejhijhak kahiyejo bhi kehna chaahti hain
girl's mom: woh darasal baat yeh hai ke humaari beti ko na baazun pe stretch marks hain
boy's mom: ji ji toh?
girl's mom: nahin bas yahi bataana tha
boy's mom: (Thinking: don't understand iss mein bataane na bataane vaali kya baat hai) ji ji samaj aagayi....aur koi nayi taazi?
girl's mom: toh aapko koi faraq nahin parrta?
boy's mom's eyebrow goes up but girl's mom cant see it as they are speaking over the telephone
boy's mom: uhmm nahin farq kyun parrega?
girls mom: chalo shukar alhamdulillah ...
chillax everything is going to be fine its really not a big deal
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With all due respect, why are you surprised? Princesses aren't supposed to have stretch marks? Should she have named herself the Ugly Duckling?
i don't think thats what she meant hehe i think she meant chotte bache chotti chotti cheezon ko leke pareshaan ho jaate hain and i think it was just a way to say that if her fiance is at all mature this wouldnt matter to him as much as it matters to her
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me think you should let him know if shorts sleeves/no sleeves are common in your inlaws.... what if they end up buying stuff like that for you including your wedding/valima dress..??
about your fiancee, I dont know how much he is into physical beauty but I m sure YOU know some people are so much into it ....then why hide deliberately? can you confidetly say he would not care...??
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just tell them you're not comfortable with short sleeves, they possibly can't force you to wear them, and if they ask why (which would be a bit cheeky) just say you're not used to them or don't like to expose your arms
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lol i can imagine that conversation in my mind's eye
girls mom to boys mom: suniye aapse ek baat discuss karni thi kuch samajh mein nahin aata kaise bataun boy's mom: bejhijhak kahiyejo bhi kehna chaahti hain girl's mom: woh darasal baat yeh hai ke humaari beti ko na baazun pe stretch marks hain boy's mom: ji ji toh? girl's mom: nahin bas yahi bataana tha boy's mom: (Thinking: don't understand iss mein bataane na bataane vaali kya baat hai) ji ji samaj aagayi....aur koi nayi taazi? girl's mom: toh aapko koi faraq nahin parrta? boy's mom's eyebrow goes up but girl's mom cant see it as they are speaking over the telephone boy's mom: uhmm nahin farq kyun parrega? girls mom: chalo shukar alhamdulillah ...
chillax everything is going to be fine its really not a big deal
Lol, that is funny, but I'm not sure the conversation would quite go like that. MIL-to-be will be like 'OMG......you what??? She's not good enough'. It's pretty depressing to think about this. I can't see this kind of conversation taking place.
With all due respect, why are you surprised? Princesses aren't supposed to have stretch marks? Should she have named herself the Ugly Duckling?
As for the OP, Men generally don't care about things like that. If he chose to make you his significant other and spend the rest of his life with you, then he must've seen traits that are more important than something as minor as stretch marks. You need to boost your confidence and know that these marks don't take away from your beauty and doesn't change who you are. I would still suggest you tell him beforehand, bring it up in a casual conversation so you're not worried about it all this time until you're married and he knows you had nothing to hide. I'm not saying this because the stretch marks itself are a big deal but to give you a peace of mind. If he likes you genuinely and really wants to spend his life with you, then inshallah he will stick by and will help in building your confidence back, and if (very low chance) he turns out to be one of those rareeee few douchebags who makes a big deal out of it, then I'd say it's a good thing you figured him out before it was too late and were married to him already.
I was going to write a personal issue I had, but I think this should do.
I really hope you are right.
And to everyone else, thank-you for all of your support and reassurances.