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It is much easier to forgive than to forget.
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What about the possibility of diseases?
I want to know so I can protect myself.
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In most cases, infidelity doesnt just happen overnight. The partners are emotionally and physically separated. They can see it coming. When the hearts are not glued together, they can be blown away in any direction in the wind of destruction.
If such is not the case, then a truth that disturbs peace and harmony is worse than a lie.
Re: Better to know or remain ignorant?
I think personally speak I would prefer not knowing because it would save me from a lot of grief. I am assuming what Sehrysh wrote that the person already feels guilty and will not do it again. I think it also depends on the kind of relationship we are in i.e. marriage/enagement/dating.
p.s. I can say anything I want right now as I am not in that situation right now as I am not in that situation. This is a best judgement answer.
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I'd rather know, so i have a valid reason to break his haddiyan!
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ummmmumm
i wud rather like to hear.
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I'd rather know, so i have a valid reason to break his haddiyan!
awww ... so much love
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Hmm. The thread brought to mind a hadith that says it's not good to disclose a sin that Allah has concealed, and that the person should repent and mend their ways. Don't know how authentic the hadith is and it raises the question that shouldn't one whose rights have been violated (depending upon the gravity of the offense) know about the offense? And what if knowledge of the offense comes out from some other source months or even years later?
Okay, so the affair is over with and won't ever happen again. But that doesn't necessarily mean that your spouse no longer has romantic feelings for the person that they cheated with. What if the affair was stopped because your spouse felt guilty and realized it's a sin, but still has feelings for that person? Couldn't that have an impact on the interactions within the marriage even though the spouse is no longer cheating? In this case, some may prefer to know what happened than to continue to be in a relationship that's dead. Unless the spouse makes a real strong effort to make the marriage better. And it would have to be a mutual effort to fix the problems in the marriage that might have led to the infidelity in the first place. Those issues aren't going to disappear as soon as the wayward spouse decides to end the affair.