Best age to get married?

[Reha]

Re: Best age to get married?

@philosophy

ummm. im not trying to use your personal details or anything..but since you used a personal example my response to that is:

it’s not like marriage just happened to you…the whole time you were actively looking for potential spouses and on several occasions expressed frustration, etc with the system and process

it was a priority for you. probably above many others. so don’t just try to suggest that meh it doesn’t matter..and you don’t care about what society thinks or that it’s not important. it just misleads people.

and very happy that you found someone great in a non-trad way…that gives hope that maybe things are changing!

I was looking on the side because it was something my parents expected of me. It was not a priority. After my first marriage, I realized that society doesn’t come to your rescue when you’re in a bind - they just don’t. Alllllll those hundreds of people who attend your wedding? None of them are there when you and your husband have issues.

I have never cared about what people thought…if that was the case I would never have gotten divorced - you see?

So, I started a business from scratch, got it off the ground and sold it for a profit in only four years - my priority - my project for four years before I got married again. That’s something I am quite proud of.

People can do what they wish or they can learn from other peoples’ mistakes.

And despite allllll the efforts my parents, friends and I made…the way I met my husband was the strangest way ever. Had nothing to do with anything anyone did.

For my daughter, I’d never want her to worry about marriage. Life is too long and the world is too big. We should never limit our kids and make them fit into some cookie cutter mold…the mold doesn’t exist…its in our heads. Go, travel, see the world, help someone, accomplish something…marriage is not going anywhere. When you’re ready, it’ll be there. Waiting for you.

There is no age to get married people - its qismat, Allah swt and NONE of this - despite what you may think - is in your hands. And since its not in your hands, why waste time worrying about it?