Best age to get married?

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Re: Best age to get married?

@Paheli00

Are these women single mothers? If not then where are their husbands…ie. the father of these children? The father can’t watch his own children if his wife is out somewhere…even 1-2x/week? I know several families (desi and non-desi) where the husband is more than happy to watch the children if the wife needs to go somewhere. My own BIL spends evenings on his own with his 7 year old daughter if DIL is working late or needs to go on a “girls night out” or whatever. From what you’re describing, it seems that the children needs to be attached to their mother 24/7 until the age of 18.

1. A 21/22/23 year old female who most likely is 100% dependent on her husband for financial support, and has never been independent her entire life thanks to having over-protective parents…how much “self-respect” do you think she can really keep when her husband asks her to “compromise” on something? Do you honestly believe most desi women in that situation actually has a choice in not compromising?

2. We don’t get to pick our parents and while living with them, we often don’t have any control/choice in our “compromises”. There is also a major difference in the way we’re related. We can NEVER change who are parents are and no matter what they do, overwhelming majority of us will always be there for our parents. Its not like I can go look for and pick out another mother if I’m not happy with mine. Spouses are a different story. If my spouse is disrespectful, abusive, uncompromising whatever…if I’m not happy with him, I do have the option of divorce and looking for another spouse.

Not singles, few are working mums (part time) and other are housewives. The husbands work full time ,some on weekends as well. And the working mums usually meet up on their days off and have to rush to pick up kids from school or go home early as it would be sleeping time for the kids.

Self respect you have it or you dont…age doesnt matter here. I dont see compromise as an drawback… compromising and acting like a doormat are not synonyms in my dictionary
Plus an early marriage is not an end for education or job…so self respect and independent can be developed after marriage if one wants it.