i hate it wen my parents/aunts/uncles…compare me with other girls…as much as i love them…i just cant stop this horrible feeling…of hatred (or maybe its jealousy) wen they compare me to other girls…and it really pisses me off…
do any other girls get it or is it just me…and also does this happen or has ever happened to guys?
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from what ive seen Pakistani parents come in three kinds
those that worship their kids and would never utter anything degrading or upsetting to hurt their cherubs lil feelings....these kids can do no wrong
those that tell their kids SO and so's kids learnt to ride a bike and you havent, they can passed their exams in flower arranging and you have only got a B in maths...this can be counter productive
and those parents who have a healthy combination of the two
your parents dont mean to deride you
they are just giving you something to aim for.. to achieve that standard
they are going the wrong way around it but they dont realis that it can harbour resentment and thoughts of voodoo against the "other" girl.
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My naani does it all the time...she has been doing it since I was a kid...always comparing me to my cousins (her sons children)... she always seemed to make them out to be perfect little angels and no matter what I did...they were always better!
It used to piss me off quite a bit...but then I just got used to it and realized that there is nothing I can do to change her opinion...so I stopped caring about it! Its not really flattering being compared to other people...especially when all of us try to be unique and different!
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this is true but i think its better to be compared to other kids then have the type of parents who think their kid can’t do wrong and is perfect. thats how kids get totally screwed up.
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the thing with parents is that they are not taught how to "grow up " their children
and add things like a living in different culture etc, they try to do their best.
I think if you have the type of parents that will listen to you when you say "please dont talk to me about so and so...it makes me mad" tell them
or do the
"did you know... smoke, takes drugs, has boyfriend....did yher mum tell you that...shall I be like her ..."
tends to make parents shut up!
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i use to use that trick alot.
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Talk to them about it or start comparing them to other parents/aunties.
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^^ 
“You never let me do anything. SoAndSo’s parents always trust her”
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Not gonna do drugs and drink but gonna gonna have a g/f 
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Shaharti bachi,...
... dont take it to seriously your parents love as you are. They dont compare you with other girls. Maybe they want you to take them as an example on certain parts of life.
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There's nothing wrong with being compared. If there's some good in the other individuals that you are being compared to, then you might as well learn a thing or two from them. Otherwise, quitely listen to your parents without getting upset over the comparison.
Also, be sure that other parents could be using you as a role model in an attempt to change their kids. It goes both ways.
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Try not to take it personally...its just your parents have a vision of what you should be and if you dont fit that mould they will give you a hard time...they just want what THEY see as being best for you...its annoying but you shouldnt let it bother you...fulfil your visions and be happy...your visions and their visions wont always comply so dont let comments bog you down...do your own thing and appreciate the fact that their hearts are in the right place...