When we were yung I mean in school and even for the first two years in college we were not allowed to watch any Indian movies. Today we watch all kind ofd Indian and English movies When I lokk back I think the decision of our paareents was right. Children do not have enough sense at that age to understand what is right ands wrong. There is an age for everything and we must wait for the right age. I know many girls that are infact influenced by the movies. The only reason why girls or even boys that run away is not that their rights are denied in some cases movies play a role as well. I am not saying movies are wrong but must wait for the right age. Sorry if there are any spelling mistakes can not recheck my moim is calling for lunch
Hi Sufi Master
If I was in your place I might have done the same, despite knowing that both of those guys would have beaten me to death. But that doesn't means that I'm a hero or a coward. Well friend thats my view about life and society, and I dont want to lecture any one about Islam or heaven or hell. And I'm not atheist. And I haven't find any one other than Allah to put my faith in.
And I believe in diversity of thoughts, and anyways its upto gals to decided their fate.
Take care
bye
dear yasin,
you said that fornication is okay, if you still insist that fornication is okay then you are a coward.
to have sXX before marriage ie dating then if gal gets pregnant then you cowards run away.You will probably say what about safe sXX then i tell you its human nature not to so mistakes happen. No wonder in usa half the kids dont know who is their father
if you repent for your sins then thats between you and god.As for a ladies fate then its their choice but within islam
guys and gals got to be decent.
Hi Sufimaster
Friend, again I would say that you are making wrong assumptions about me. If I make a woman pregant, I wont give up on her, and I wont quite. I also feel the same about those single moms and kids with no father name attached to them. And beside, I dont like the idea of getting married with a gal who u dont know at all and then on first night of marriage you exploite that gal, and abuse her, as in most of the case gals dont say that they didn't want to make love on the first night of marriage. This is mainly becuase of the fear that she has to suffer the consequences later in the life. Which is what happening in our society today. If this was the case in West, the woman would have filed a case against her husband or bf that she was forced to make love.
Also, its very very rare that a woman get pregant even after having safe sex. It normally happens when she is too drunk, or stoned, or she has a deep crush on some guy that she just dont care if they are doing a safe sex or not.
Never mind, my opinions are never straight, and hardly follows Islam or chirstanity. Thats how I'm; I'm a rational creature and do what ever that makes more sense logically.
Bye for now and take care
dear yasin ,
if you are one of these guys that doesnt leave your girlfriend who you have one night stand with then you are one in a million.Every guy says the same as you but when the news gets round every guy does a runner, trust me.
also u said that gals are forced into marriage and cant file a complaint in muslim countries.In some mulsim countries their is womens rights the islamic style and women are happy.
in the west women are openly abused and harassed in the street and the law doesnt say anything.I have been in 6 situations like this. I will never forget how frightened women in the west are from being harassed and sexually abused.
can i step into every situation and end up with 10 convictions for assault.........nobody will employ me and i will spend time in and out of jail, its not logical!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
the divorce rate for people who have arranged marriage is soo low, compared to 60% and increasing in america.
the majority of people with arranged marriage are happy.
Well friends, I guess I should give up, as I also know that my thoughts and ideas about how society should be is very wierd, and hard to understand.
So I guess I should leave this in hand of Allah, and intelligent people over here.
Take care
bye
if you want to find the truth you shouldnt give up so easily.
you seem to be affected by western society very badly and cant control yourself . i know that you are trying to change but for some change is difficult.
Im no angel myself but i believe if you follow islam then yuo will live in peace. Reasons why fornication is forbidden is given in islam.Allah created us so allah knows our weaknesses and strongpoints.
about other gupoos in telligence then stop being so modest,
Your arguments are also needed to bring about the true way
ie attitudes towards women
Dear SufiMaster
I'm not trying to change my self, because I have already changed myself couple of years ago. I'm not affected badly, its just that I know how to get socialised in both the societies. I have made certain accomplishments after coming to North America, which was not there before and my peronality was not complete when I was back home.
I'm involved with these white people as much as I'm involved with my pakistani and indian friends, before I wasn't social. What I have learnt is the phychology to these people, and I know the difference between true love and the prase "having good time / just for fun".
And please dont tell me what islam says, becuase I have my own code of life, and any ways today I dont see Islam alive, and I dont see any one following Islam with its true spirit. I dont intend to lecture on islam, its just that I'm a rational being and I go with logic, and priorities that I have give to certain things in life.
As far as women are concern they have same rights to decide their fate, as any man does. But they only have to be clever to differiate between person who truly loves them and a person who is just looking for a good time. Besides woman instincts are much stronger than man, and they know if a person is honest or not.
Well bye for now, I have to resume my work
take care
You have been quite a strange person but its your life.
good luck with your life
bye
Helllllloooo,
i take it u guys missed me!!!
well i was celebrating cos i got 1-eng, 2-mths,1-art, 1-ger,1-med,2-biology,1-chem.
i noticed the topics here are getting a bit boring, so im soorrry i wasnt here.
sufimaster- i thought ak was a girl but i think its a man cos he wrote to me angrily and said he was a man.
sufimaster,
Your comments are invited in a thread in the Married Life section. It's called "Divorce Rate and What it Means".