being too loud?

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Giving looks to uni boys for swearing in front of young kids or telling off a restaurant owner for putting inappropriate song videos on tv in the family area and telling him to change the channel…is it considered loud behaviour as opposed to being soft spoken and lady-like behaviour?

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In today's day and age what your doing is utterly pointless.

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What am I doing? Trying to raise civilized kids? How is it pointless.

And yes those uni boys did stop swearing after I gave them angry looks.

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Serves them right. You go girl..I have the same opinion.

I remember I was in Egypt and We used to go to resturants, even though we sat in the mens area.. There was seating for families .. now the tvs that were on.. were all conected to one. Now when they used to have be-hooda (indecently clothed, female singers with bad fashion sense) songs playing they would also be playing in the family section.

So its not just here .. the disease is everywhere. As for the swearing.. I wouldnt tolerate it anywhere regarldess of my kids being with me or not.

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95% of 12 year olds with access to a computer have watched porn. They all curse each other at school with the language you don't want older kids to use in front of them.

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I'm talking about the west btw. It may be different wherever you are.

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The point in Hareems thread is that .. The remaining 5% of our kids. We want to keep them away from all the above. And its our duty to do so AS PARENTS. It doesnt mean that 95% of the kids are doing it and we let our kids also fall into that category.

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But telling people off is a lady-like behavior.

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Yes I know the statistics in the west. I am from the west.

Btw, I do have a kid, and thats exactly what i would be doing to protect him from Behaviour of the above sorts. If and when necessary, would also do what Hareem did even as a father. So the question of lady like or not, doesnt really matter.

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being too loud?

Sometimes people don't realize they have said an inappropriate word or playing music that might not be suitable for kids so I don't see the harm in asking them to tone it down!! Tiny ears tiny words!!!!! Most people are more than willing to watch what they say around children and apologize profusely. I have never had to tell them off, asking nicely works too!!

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instead of reforming the world, why dont you teach your child how to fight back or stay away or to deal with situations like that? ....
i dont know if it is ladylike behavior or not... its all depend on the situation, circumstances, place, how the matter has been approached and by whom (ofcourse your own personality and presentation counts a lot)??

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However hard you try as a parent the environment will have influence to how your kids manners and behaviours moulds them to being an individual its good to have some fight in them too as a means to defend themselves in this cruel world.

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Devi, yourfriend and sweet....I know what you guys are saying and I agree with you. I'm too specific (i don't know if that's the right term) about things....and I find it really hard to change that.

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you only realize such things if you have a kid... and its upto you to try ... what are we if we cant even give something a go as parents?

ure talkin bout explicit material.. heck ive once asked for the cooling be turned down a bit cuz I was feeling cold :D and my wish was granted

if its a wedding etc.. i wouldnt take the babies with me.. cuz ofcourse there will be loud music..
if its a family restaurant and they are showing idiotic filthy songs... you bet im gonna have a word with the manager.

sure i may be asked to leave if i dont like it.. but atleast i woulda tried.

u keep doing waht u are doing :)