Re: Being the first to forgive…
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Re: Being the first to forgive...
I have no issues apologizing when i'm in the wrong but no way in hell am I going to apologize to anybody when THEY wronged me. (well..not any more :p)
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Sara516 has brought up above the same thing that I wanted to bring up ... but I wanted to present it in a slightly different way ...
There is forgiveness on one hand ... but this has two aspects ... the one who forgives (showing mercy) and the one who seeks forgiveness (showing guilt/peace offering) ...
Often what can be seen as stubborn behaviour is really the other party waiting for an apology and vice-versa ... Hence I would not always be the first one to forgive ... because it would totally be clueless of me to forgive someone if they felt I was the one who needed to be seeking forgiveness so they could forgive me.
Before I rush to forgive someone I will try to determine in their minds eye that I should be apologising for anything ... and if I truly want to make amends then if I feel wronged in anyway I don't need to "forgive" them by saying "I forgive you" - like a king to a servant but rather I just console myself and say to myself they may have realised they were offending me ... and then behave normally with them ... If they still felt hard done then it would depend on my relationship with them whether I choose to go the extra step and seek forgiveness for something that I felt was not really my fault ... but to aid peace and friendship I would often make this step ... I call it the peace offering. If I remained on the sore point that the other party started it or the other party did the wronging ... instead of trying to get the other party to admit that I would just be nice ... There is a chance of this set-up becoming a steam rolling exercise on their behalf ... that they feel they can take advantage but if it happens too often then slowly I would detach ... and if they wanted it to go well then they would seek resolution themselves. My rule however is to be more peace offering than forgiving and more forgiving than holding fast to my sense of worth.
Re: Being the first to forgive...
If its some one who I am close to and who means to me I apologize to put an end to the agony - I dont like it when people are annoyed with me whether for their own reasons or mine.
But that said, if the trend goes on for a while, a time comes when my bubble blows as well.