Being the first to forgive...

[Amoureux_de_la_vie]

Re: Being the first to forgive…

@Sehrysh

…inspired by another thread.

If someone very close to you has wronged you or hurt you and they are a stubborn personality, would you take the initiative and make the first move for a reconciliation or would you wait for them to admit their fault and apologize to you?

I would do the best to forgive them for my sake. Anger hurts me more than it hurts the other person.

If I try to reconcile or not depends on the kind of relationship it was. If it was clear that the person didn’t care about me, then I won’t even go close to them, ever. Sometimes people care about you but get too stuck in their own dysfunctional patterns, which just means that they’re not capable to really care about someone, yet. I wouldn’t reconcile with them either. Until at least I learn somehow that they’ve grown up and dealt with their issue.

But if the relationship was good enough and a major disagreements made things bitter, I wont mind taking the first step to reconcile.