I have a friend who’s the same age as myself. I’ve known her since I was 8 years old. About a year ago we talking on the phone and she startin gtelling me about a male friend who is having problems with his marriage. She’s known him for about 5 years. They were in school together. Apparently he used to like her at time same time he had 4 girlfriends. They were only 18. Somehting happened and all of a sudden she had to go to America. She had no idea whether she would come back. She told me that one of her friends really liked him ( he must’ve liked the other girl too). My friend returned from America to find out that the guy was married to her friend.
I know this sounds filmi but it’s real. The girl’s parents were not happy with the marriage as the couple were too young. They got married when they were 19 years old. The wife moved to England to study law as per her parents wish. Larkay ki to Eid hogayi. He went around doing whatever he wanted to do. My friend used to talk to him all the time. When I found out I wasn’t very happy because any wife would never want her husband to be flirting or talking to other girls. I told my friend that wasn’t fair on his wife and whether she knows? She was like " yeh ofcourse she knows. I have her permission". Maybe the wife was too sweet to say no?or maybe she trusted my friend since they were good friends?
Around JUne 2008 I got a phone call and the guy was on the line too. I was really mad at my friend but didn’t say anything to her infront of him. She was like “MKD, Asad ( made up name) wants to divorve his wife. Isko samjhao”.
me: Listen he is old enough to know what he is doing. I think he needs to communicate with her. How would she know what’s going on?"
The guy was so stupid he was like woh wahan ja kar beth gayi hai. Main yahan hon. Ham har waqt lartay rehte hain. Dude why were u dying to get married at the age of 19? Couldn’t you have waited? Agar usay divorce denahai to mehrbani ker ke ainda kabhi shadi na karna aur agar ki then wait till you’re in your 30s. It’s going to take you alot of time to grow up ( mentally).
I bet he thought I was crazy. Part of me felt maybe my friend is leading him on and the reason why he wants to divorce her is because he thinks. She would marry him.
I visited her in the Summers and I found out a lot of things that made me loose all the respect I had for her. Her older sister told me that larkay larki ne bhag ker shadi ki thi this is why his wife’s parents weren’t happy. Secondly, my friend had met up with him twice while he was married. Thirdly, his wife came over to my friend’s house in tears. This is what happened:
Wife: Tina ( my friend, not her actual name) he’s divorcing me * bursts out crying* I really don’t want a divorce tumhain pata hai humne bhag ker shdi ki thi. Main sari zindagi kisi ke tanay nahin suna chahti. Tina mujhe ek chise batao main uski biwi hon uske inbox main mera ek bhi message saved nahin hota. Tumhare kyun hotay hain wahan?
Tina acted as if she had no idea he was intending on divorcing her.
She knew all the way that he was going to divorce her. Infact he came to see Tina at her workplace with a bunch of flowers. Which she accepted ofcourse. The surprising thing was Tina is a hijabi, offers all her prayers and is always talking about Islam and Allah swt naraz ho jatay hainh yeh nahin kerna chahyea woh nahi. Khud kia kerdeya?
He divorced his wife. I was really mad at my friend so I confronted her about this. I told her how it was all her fault. She is no one to be interfering in someone else’s marraied life. If tehy have probs, they should’ve sorted them out amongst themselves. " Are you going to marry him now since tumhari wajah se divorce howa?"
Response: MKD aise larkon e insan shdi nahin kerta. Kal wo kisi aur keh peche bhagay ga.
How can you be so religious and do this at the same time? Kal ko isay bhi us larki ki bad dua lagay gi ( I told her that too). Tab samajh ayai gi keh khud kahan ghaltian kein thein.
You liked someone at one stage of your life. They liked you too. Once they’re married move on. Since then we haven’t really spoken to eachother. She lies to me. She made the girl seem to be the person in the wrong. As when I asked her itni jaldi kyun inhon ne sh\adi ki she told me " larki ke parents ko jaldi hogi shayad". It was always the larki’s fault. Why? Oh and she wanted me to go long to meet Asad. Ofcourse being the bad friend I am. I refused to go and be part of anyone’s bad duas. Tab Allah swt naraz nahin howay jab ek shadi shuda larkay ko milnay ja rahi thi? 
Another thing I forgot to mention. Apparently he told her agar kabhi tumhara husband bura nikla ( when she gets married) i’ll be there for you. Tum beshak usay divorce ker ke mujh se shadi ker lena. WTH man! Marry him now.
