So I am watching this program about a couple who meets another friendly couple and start going out and inviting eachother over for dinner, etc. Then the first couple realizes that the other couple are having an affair. Meaning the man in this case was married to another woman but he is dating someone else. So the first couple doesn’t know what to do, whether continue seeing them, or stop seeing them altogether. They don’t know if they want to be seen around town with this cheating couple.
What would you do if you were in this situation? Would you stay friends or would you have to end the friendship because of your conscience telling you something else, or what? Would you mind being seen in public with them? Would you feel you are encouraging the relationship by going out with them? Would you offer advice to them? Or would you be fine with everything since they are just another couple? Thanks.
I remember I went to this Chandraat party once, and there was a woman there whose husband was in the other room with the men. The ladies were all sitting together. The friend who invited me didn’t mention anything about anyone except this one particular woman. She told me that this woman is having an affair with different men in the community and that everyone knows it but doesnt say anything to her. I didn’t know why I needed to know that, and so I didnt know how to respond.
My mother once stopped a woman from coming to our house because the woman was way too friendly with my dad. I didn’t find out until later that she refused to socialize with that lady.
If i were friends with someone, and i knew that someone was having an affair, i would confront them and let them know that they need to stop things before they ruin their life/a good thing..if he/she wants out of the marriage then they should have the guts to get out rather than wimping out with an affair..
If my friend were the one being cheated on..i would try to stay there to be there for her/him when they found out....
if i wasn't friends with them..then there would be no point in becoming friends...
as for gossip..
i was about 12 and at a dawaat at some auntys house and according to the story..one aunty confronted the other in the basement where their kids were playing.....of course everyone heard it...
hmmm, very interesting topic.
well, i’m not too sure what i would do.
on one hand, its really not any of my business who my “new friends” are dating, and its their life, they can do whatever they want…its none of my business.
but on the other hand, i would not want to be “friends” with people who are like that, ppl who cheat on their spouse or significant other.
i know i’m generalizing, but “once a cheater always a cheater.”
people who cheat don’t have other morals or ethics in the rest of their lives either and i just don’t associate with such people.
I'm a firm believer of "not having to butt in where other people are concerned" - or at least I try to, with the exception of when a really hot piece of gossip (non-malevolent, of course) is presented about someone who really isn't in my circle of friends, then, well, I'm entitled make an exception. ;) Anyway. Since this is about cheating, and I'm also a firm believer of "torturing all who cheat as they are the scum of the Earth and really do deserve to die a slow and painful death, one that comes only after a torture session fit to make the persecutors from medieval times wince, twice and again," I'd have to say no, I really would not want to go out with them again, and not just because I wouldn't want to be seen in public with them, but because I can't stand such people, and if I'm subjected to any type of contact, or rendezvous with them in my company, I'd have a hard time controlling myself, and my tongue.
I'm wondering if people are more forgiving to those that are girlfriend/boyfriend that cheat on eachother. Meaning they would be willing to hang out with a guy cheating on his girlfriend rather than say a man cheating on his wife.
If you shun the cheating couple, where do they end up? i.e. is it the right course of action? Does there become a large circle of cheater friends as opposed to non-cheater circles?
A cheater is a cheater, whether it's behind a wife/husband's back or a girlfriend/boyfriend's. If someone is capable of justifying such deception against any other human being, they're simply dodo brains who shouldn't be spared the time of day.
And although as I've mentioned earlier I am a firm believer of minding my own business, when it comes to unfaithfulness, I think it's the friends' responsibility (as a person with heart) to tell the cheater off, and then break the news to the cheated that their spouse is a major donkey.
