I have noticed people that tend to be terrified of their parents, happen to be rather dubious characters.
One of my friends from School was controlled by his parents to the nth degree, once he went to university, he started drinking, smoking weed, girlfriends etc etc.
Is this a fundamental flaw of parenting, making your kids afraid of you, surely you should make them afraid of the consequences in the life hereafter of their actions (then respect of parents comes with it)
Once their parents are no longer a massive part of their lives, or watching them, they become rather corrupt characters as they fear their parents rather than god?
I remember this girl in my school was so terrified of her Dad (he wouldn't let her talk on the phone, go on field trips, made her wear nikab, told her to look at the floor when they went shopping or out. They were ultra-extreme set of Afghans) so she ran away from home and married the guy she was secretly seeing in school. And now she rebels against everything her dad told her to. Not saying she did a bad thing necessarily since what he did was pretty barbaric but that kind of fear and controlling behavior from is absolutely horrible and has the total opposite effect afterwards.
I also dont know why desi parents make their kids become "afraid" of them and "rob daalna". There is instilling fear in your kids and then there is respect. Fear teaches you nothing except temporarily, like with the guy and my classmate, respect instills it in you for life. So instead of making your kids learn by fear and control, learn to parent them by teaching them about respect.
I have seen girls and guys doing all the wrong things... those belong to strict families. When they get a chance they behave really bad.
Parents should be friendly..... but they should punish their kids when they do something wrong. Awain sakhti kerny sey bachy chup ker ghalat kam ekrty hain.
The stricter the parents are the wilder the kids are when they get out of the house. I know girls who weren't allowed out of the house and went to Islamic school but took nearly naked pictures of themselves and put them up on facebook, did weed had a new boyfriend every week.
Parents need to understand that if they don't have a proper relationship with their kids and those children will search for it elsewhere, generally in 'bad' crowds. Trust is incredibly important, especially in countries where drugs and everything is literally on your door step.
I know girls who weren't allowed out of the house and went to Islamic school but took nearly naked pictures of themselves and put them up on facebook, did weed had a new boyfriend every week.
No one appreciates genius. We must find our own refuge! :(
Now that you say 'we' are geniuses I gotta agree with you.
Go away now, were going to be the most hated members of GS ever, and I'm pretty new, I'm still building a rep and what not.
I know girls who weren't allowed out of the house and went to Islamic school but took nearly naked pictures of themselves and put them up on facebook, did weed had a new boyfriend every week
^ LOL I love how I've become the middle man for everyone. There's seriously none of them where you live?
You need to get out more son.
Sorry OP! Again.
