Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

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Muslim brother because of beard. I have come across some Muslims whose attitude towards men with beard and women with head covered is so horrible (irrespective of their personality, character, taqwa…etc.) that at times one is forced to wonder what would their level of respect be if they see any Prophet or Suhabi / Suhabia in their dream and didn’t know whom they are talking to.

But you wouldn’t see many examples in daily life where a bearded man dislikes a clean shaved brother only because he is clean shaved. Or a woman with Hijab behaving rudely with a sister only because she doesn’t wear Hijab. But in case of vice versa some ‘Muslims’ would make it very clear through their words and actions that their attitude towards you would have been a lot better if you were someone who doesn’t follow the appearance of the Prophets and Suhabis, but someone who follows the appearance of present age (so called) heroes/heroines.

It is not that bearded/hijabi people are dying for respect, but only that it hurts to see a Muslim brother/sister behaving in a manner with them that was only expected from the worst enemies of Islam.

**p.s. I know one should earn respect…etc…etc. I am talking about first meeting, when their expressions show hatred as if they have decided your first IMPRESSION to be bad only because of your appearance, and you haven’t spoken to them yet.

p.s.2 It is a ONLY a general observation. Predictions and guesses about anyone’s personal experience would be ignored.**

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and…

the only person who’s being rude to me coz of wearing a headscarf/dupatta is my own 19 years old niece, she called me Laden’s sis on fb under one of my pic. I know she’s just jealous coz she’s not as pretty as her aunt. :hehe:

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

wow.

its true though, my husband has a beard, not a long one, but a small one, however because no one else has it in family, its enough for him to get the molvi tag. pathetic. my own uncle called him a werewolf......as a joke, my husbands the type who just sits and smiles at insults, so i said to my uncle atleast he can grow hair....( in urdu) because my uncle has NO HAIR ON HEAD...and hes only 38.....:]

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bro, reward is from Allah, not from humans.

and id like to add, some men with beards and women with hijabs give attitude to clean shaven men and hijabless women. it goes both ways it’s sad really. i guess it’s the lack of taqwa for everyone.

self-praise, it’s so common these days :chai: must be the economy…

hair on head vs beard is very different unless u consider a beard on head? :hehe:

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this is so right! :k:

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

Noooo,i meant uncle cant grow hair on head, and its a big deal to him, and him saying to my hubby that hes a werewolf was just rude, just because he has hair on face...so it was meant to be said in a funny way but i tried to make my point with it.

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

ignore ignore ignoree people who insercure themselves will try to pick on u its a known fact

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rude to you- to your husband it must of been cool being called warewolf :hehe: lighten up..

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

I personally haven't seen harsh treatment of hijbais....not in high school....or uni...in the workplace. I have seen a couple examples of it being the other way around. I had lunch with two women (hijabis)...one of them was a colleague whom I had good rapport with. Everything was going fine when all of a sudden they start talking about how non-hijabis will go to hell....right before me. It was awkward...not to mention tactless. "Guidance" can inspire or repel depending on how it's done....it can have the potential to make things worse. And we all know that judgment is complex...and is not based just one factor.

I don't have anything against women who wear hijab (have several hijabi friends)...or bearded men (though I'm none too fond of beards). Respect is a fundamental for many religions...including Islam. If you strongly believe in wearing hijab/having a beard...then have confidence in your beliefs. I also believe that while you can't control the actions of others.....how you react/conduct yourself.....can influence the views people have of your religion.

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

I am a firm believer in equality. So I hit on Hijabis as much as non-hijabis and try to chat them up.

Amazingly it works! Hijabis are infact human beings!

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deary me! not another hijabi thread!

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CM knows your human now

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Nah I'm missing an N.... Huma.

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

Not only that I will hit on you as well!

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its not gonna work. ima gayboy.

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

RAW your thread is understandleble.

But one must note everyody has individual preferances, tastes, likes, which are often shaped by the society and time we live in.

For example there was a time when the hairstyle 'curtains' was in fashin, wheras now its is 'the short/spikey cut', and anybody seen with curtains will get extra attention.

With beards brother- it was the norm of that time for the muslims and nn-muslims to have it.

with all respect being perfectly straight-up, I do not think a big bushy face full of hair looks very beautiful which is a lot of guys presently dont support or find it tasteful on others.
IMnot saying anyone is ugly- but too much hair does not suit certain people.

Ofcoure the Prophets ans sahabies who had the greteast of imans, would be beautiful in any get-up.
We are average people.

Personall I thnk a small beard is ok. Is the people that comes up to you with th really long big, bushy ones with the hair also shaven off...and im like c'mon man-s- what are you trying to prove.

And also its not like these people do not try to bother us. I do have people coming up to me to keepa beard and this and that to the pint i have diassociated with such old friends,.

I I also recently heard a hijaban on my strreet shouting another neihbours girl 'oh you wer=ar tight jeans you wera tight tops', and this is also rude.

Also some times the hijbans and beardy ones get treted or seen slightly differenly is because there portrayal is exccesive at times.

plus-as they place so much importance on deen raher than also working leavng to live off goverment handouts- is what also what sometimes gets them less respect.

And regarding us clean shaven people well occasionall we do get direct or indirect comments that 'shaving is haraam' etc etc.
Giolrs do also occasionally get commen, or not even commenst but emotional blackmail-i.e the punishment for no scarf is hell.
I see this everyday in my uni and workplace. More and more girls are shifting head=scarfs although thier inner iman is not et to the same level.

I wouldnt find any brother with a neatly kept and small sizd beard awkward if greeting him at the shop counter or into the house.

But the peple with the extremist beard, head and clothing measures i find awkward.

Although , I am clean shaven-because look good in it, i feel fresher and more confident, and also more attractive as I need to get married soon.
I belive if we men expect our women to look after themselves and beauty to please us, then they also have the same right on us.

With alll respect if you want to follow the sunnath of the Prophet follow it. It is sawaab. But bear in min it is not the norm of western countries and logically sciety always has been a bit apprhensive to new things.

But aa long as yo dont do it in extreme or large measures i think its ok. As a lot nonmulims have small beards nowaday and also lots of other womwn wear headscarf (not face cover)

:P:

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I don't know what part of world are you talking about but here in Pakistan it's the opposite.

In Pakistan, bearded men look down upon shaven men and talk to them in a rude manner. They justify it with a reason that since shaven people are less muslims, misbehaving with them is tolerated by God.

Calling someone 'shaitaan' or 'kaafir' based on his/her appearance is like a joke for maulvis :)

In offices, bearded men act like moral policemen. They can declare anything Islamic/un-Islamic. In bossy positions, they can order anyone to dress in a certain way and for some reason they love to use this authority more on women as compared it on men :)

One maulvi went as far as declaring some popular websites un-Islamic and haram and a few days later he was caught watching a porn site. He justified it by saying that doing something of this sort is part of human nature and is sometimes un-avoidable LOL.

I am not sure about Hijabi/niqabi women, but being a member of this forum for some time will give you an idea how hijabi/niqabi women boast of their superiority, sharafat and purity as compared to others.

aaah I can't believe I have written so much already but this is the kind of topic I think about a lot and if I had enough time, I could write a book on it :)

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We know!

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Re: Being rude to a Muslim sister because of Hijab and....

I started wearing Hijaab in 2002 . Ever since then many of my relatives have looked down upon me because they think these are my years of youth and I should be working on making myself look good and hijaab is a hurdle in the way. I know some people who even told my mom that rishta process main problem hoga. These relatives of mine still think that it's unwise of me to wear hijaab.

I have several non muslim co-workers and one of the girls always make an innocent face as ask me why do you have to wear hijaab ? I have answered her some 10 times or so that it's my religion and I am suppose to cover my head and hide my hairs and neck from na mahrams plus I feel safe & protected but still she tries to speak it in a way that it some sort of a zulm of muslim women. Now I get to hear the question "would you make your daughter wear hijaab too ?" and my answer is "yes" ....I don't care what anybody thinks I will try to put her on correct path but when she grows up it's going to be her decision but atleast she would know what is right in eyes of Islam.

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I agreee with you redvelvet...last week, i was having lunch with some friends and one of my friend's cousin....her cousin was wearing hijab and then she start saying how its a sin if a man see your hair and how girls who doesnt wear hijab would go to hell...well she was saying alot so i told her ...a person who wears hijab doesnt mean that she would go to heaven and a person who doesnt wear hijab doesnt mean she would go to hell....maybe a person who wear hijab committed more sin then a person who is not wearing hijab

I think everyone should respect each other....