Being raised in a desi neighborhood

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Re: Being raised in a desi neighborhood

@redvelvet

What were your parents’ reasons? Was it because they felt that there’s a tendency to be nosy, maybe more judgmental, etc among desis? One of my friends…moved to Canda and she once said that a few desis around you is not so bad…but too many desis is not a good thing. I thought that was interesting. And in a way I can understand it. There are aspects of our culture that I like…and there are some that I can’t stand.

I think that was it…plus after a while, my mother heard about all the incidents that happened in Pakistani neighborhoods…and it scared her away from ever living around too many desis. (she even told me…never ever rent an apartment from a Pakistani )

@Deeba1234

I’ve never lived in a desi neigbourhood but those are the reasons I’d prefer not to.. esp the judgemental bit.. The thing that really grates with me is seeing desi boys out enjoying themselves, not having to worry about ‘reputation’ whilst their sisters have a million restrictions put on them for fear of what local ppl might think.. I could never in a million years live that way..

That’s unfortunate I would hope that by the time I have kids and they’re growing up…it won’t be like that. i know very well that a girls’ reputation is much more fragile than a boy’s…

but right now part of me loves living in a neighborhood where I see Pakistanis around all the time…there’s none of that gawking like “omg where did she come from?!”