In a relationship,how important is it that you openly share/let your partner know about issues and things that bother you?If any of your partner’s acts disappoint you or bother you,should you openly tell him/her about it?
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See, no matter how right the criticism is, human nature is that one does not want to hear it. So in order to pass on a message to your better half, you need to sugar coat it and tell them in a way so they can understand. Coming on too strong and being blunt about it isn't the way.
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i think being open to an extent is sooo important.....its about honesty which builds trust..and whats a relationship without trust.....right??
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its very important, but some people are not very open to discuss issues or take criticism lightly.
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In my experience it is extremely important. If something is bothering me and i dont share it with my husband but still act like i am mad over something, it is going to send confusing signals to him and eventually lead to a bigger problem.
About what you can share/criticize easily and comfortably, i think it depends on the other person. Alhamdulillah, for my husband and i, it works to be extremely open. If i am bothering him over something, he will straight out say so. Same is the case with me. If something he does annoys me, i tell him straight up. Ofcourse being courteous is the key, dont yell at the other person. It saves us both, alot of guesstimating.
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One thing I hear my partner say quite often is that he hates guessing what's bothering me - I should come out with it! So I eventually do and somehow he makes it all okay and takes care of it. I've never regretted being honest about anything with him - in fact, most times I realise how much of a bigger deal I was making of something that turned ridiculously minor after I shared it with him! :)
But yeah, definitely choose your words wisely.
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My husband told me i looked like a buldoser ran over me yesterday 
The sad part is it was true. My husband can be painfully honest sometimes.
Anyways, honesty is all good but you gotta be careful. Don’t EVER and I mean EVER tell your wife the truth when she doesn’t look good.
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Phato, i disagree.
My husband tells me stuff like that too but i actually appreciate his honesty. This way he doesnt have to remember when to be honest and when not to be. The other day i was straightening my hair for a party and he said, daikho tumharay baal kitnay achay lag rahay hain, thori daer pehley kitnay buray lag rahay thay 
I just shrug him off 
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Communication is key. But remember love conquers all so communicate effectively yet lovingly.
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Cannot generalize... some people cannot 'handle the truth'... some people 'want it all'!
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Some women like truth some like men to lie, some like to sugarcoat.
Opposite thought:
Some men like to be upfront, some like to be dishonest and others like to sugarcoat.
The problem is that woman can change her mind next day and poor man thinks he has to comply with the same woman he met yesterday.!!!!!!!!
The problem is that woman can change her mind next day and poor man thinks he has to comply with the same woman he met yesterday.!!!!!!!!
not necessarily........
not necessarily........
Yes dear SS. Thats why my post was the way it was.:)
You mean men just have to lie.
In my experience it is extremely important. If something is bothering me and i dont share it with my husband but still act like i am mad over something, it is going to send confusing signals to him and eventually lead to a bigger problem.
About what you can share/criticize easily and comfortably, i think it depends on the other person. Alhamdulillah, for my husband and i, it works to be extremely open. If i am bothering him over something, he will straight out say so. Same is the case with me. If something he does annoys me, i tell him straight up. Ofcourse being courteous is the key, dont yell at the other person. It saves us both, alot of guesstimating.
I agree with Ira totally here - You have to be courteous towards each other nevertheless. I want to share everything with my husband concerned with myself, him or our future etc - he is my best friend, my life partner Aluhumdullilah. There are some petty little things that i get really annoyed at which concerns him but i tend forget about him considering how loving, sweet and generous he is as a person mashallah.
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i think there should be full Communication no matter what! No suger coating. I mean my other half is so blunt its no even funny, he'll tell me when i'v gained weight or when i have too much make-up on, and yes it bother me at the time and i yell at him, but who cares, these are just little things. i mean atleast some random aunti isn't telling you this stuff!!
In a relationship,how important is it that you openly share/let your partner know about issues and things that bother you?If any of your partner's acts disappoint you or bother you,should you openly tell him/her about it? Please share!
If my partner's act disappoints me, then yes I tell him very bluntly. No sugar coating.
Although his answer is always "I DON'T CARE" :CareBear:
Other than that, any worldly issues that bother me - I CANNOT hide it from my hubz. I feel better only after I tell him. (He is my only best friend)!