Re: Being Neglected............
[quote="amana, post:39, topic:171012"]
I am a little confused by your post. Do you like this guy, or is he taking advantage of you to get a greencard/passport, etc? If he is, then now is the ideal time to get out of this engagement, especially since your mom is no longer pressuring you into it.
At first i hated this guy just to the fact that i was promised all these things and he wasn't anything like what iwas told he was .Then he seemed weird but i guess if two people who have grown up not just in different countries but different families differences are bound to happen. Lol gosh i wish i knew that if he was doing it for the greencard/passport it would make my decision easier. But i know in my heart that he is a good person and that i am just trying to make excuses to get out of it as I had expected him to be of a totally different character.
Your mom was in an abusive situation, and needs counseling to help her work through the sense of victimization and inadequacy she has from her marriage to your father. If you live in the west then I strongy urge you to make sure that she receives help. There are many muslim counselors available if she does not feel comfortable going to a non-muslim.
I guess i did not want to send my mom into the workforce cause i know how hard it is and i have seen her struggling throughout her life and i did not want her to struggle in a environment that she was totally not comfortable with. And her coming from a background where you keep your dirty laundry to yourself it would be totally difficult for her to open up. If i did get her to go there would be that language barrier.
I guess the best thing i can do is to pray for her myself and our future.