Re: Being misjudged?
Hulahoop Queen- i have been reading this thread because i can relate to the way you are feeling.
My ex ( im assuming he is ure ex, im a little confused by the he/she thing) used to act in exactly the same way, and in our relationship, i was going through a bad patch due to other things in my life and i shut myself off and he had to constantly reassure me without me being there for him, there were many many other flaws in our relationship and in him which i see now. ( different story)
But when i was with him and he used to constantly judge me and tell me to do things this way and that way and have frustation in his voice and when i used to fight back i would still be the bad one becaus i was too emotional it just made me feel insecure!
What im trying to say is dont be so harsh on yourself, dont think that you are always wrong, do not put this man on a pedistal and think whatever he says about you is right. Look inside yourself and find all the good things about you, once you start feeling secure and confident sticking up for yourself wont be an issue and his words will no longer affect you.
I used to be the same, from the fear of losing this man i would try and mould myself into what he claimed he wanted me to be, not being myself actually made our relationship worse because i was never happy.
I dont know if i have got the right end of the stick! so i am confused then ignore my post.