This requires the art to understand while you are not even told. Those of us who are good at it are happier in this situation. Its sometimes others who are the cause but we mishandle it resulting in a way that we suffer for others' faults. Coming back to marriage, a relationship that has been nurtured in a way that you actually understand yourselves, you are not into troubles. This has to do with the couples mental reach to one another.
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well we weren't exactly engaged or married or even dating, we were just friends , but yeah i understand
for a while I've been wanting to get married, but recently I've realized I'm SO not ready for so many reasons.
im guessing ur married already...was urs arranged?
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For the rituals sake I am not married. But if it is like God approves of the likes as married cuz their hearts and mind accept eachother, we are.
You are not ready for so and so reason? If you are too much into thinking; that so and so reason would generate more so and so reasons leaving you wanting for marriage till I dont know when!
I don’t want to say i’m too young, coz age isn’t really a factor…everyone matures at a different pace, and while I’m mature in some aspects, in others I’m on par with a two year old
Absolutely nothing if the proverbial he doesnt mind it; that too precisely when he needs you while you need her.
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it's far easier for a guy to say that. You aren't asked to leave your mothers to take care of your husband's mother.
I'll treat my mother in law like she's my own mother, but he has to do the same thing for my parents as well....marriage and everything else is a two-way street
I spoke with my mother about this a few nights ago....i declared that I will take care of her and my dad and my husband and my in laws coz IM AWESOME!! :D
it's far easier for a guy to say that. You aren't asked to leave your mothers to take care of your husband's mother.
I'll treat my mother in law like she's my own mother, but he has to do the same thing for my parents as well....marriage and everything else is a two-way street
I spoke with my mother about this a few nights ago....i declared that I will take care of her and my dad and my husband and my in laws coz IM AWESOME!! :D
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Sara, re-read my response and yours and let me know if you havent jumped to another situation?
By God I wasnt having the thought of it. I was focussed on him minus his mother.
Sara, re-read my response and yours and let me know if you havent jumped to another situation?
By God I wasnt having the thought of it. I was focussed on him minus his mother.
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Okay I admit i went off on a tangent there, but i don't quite understand what you were trying to say. That if i'm too attached to my mother , I won't be able to fully dedicate myself to him? Because my basic point was that if I love him enough and am mature enough, I can take care of both him and my mom
Okay I admit i went off on a tangent there, but i don't quite understand what you were trying to say. That if i'm too attached to my mother , I won't be able to fully dedicate myself to him? Because my basic point was that if I love him enough and am mature enough, I can take care of both him and my mom
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This argument started when you said you have reasons not to marry and one of them is that you dont want to leave your mother so the tilt stands heavily towards your mom and the situation is pre-determined. Your claim to keep your balance is legally not tenable.
Read law and vetting of the available facts. I cant answer as to why I think you cant take care of both beyond what I said in my previous reply :)
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