Re: Being kaali pakistani
As someone who’s NC42 and has NEVER been called “kaali” (in the U.S. or back home…by desis and non-desis)…I’m wondering what is your “color”?
I say I’m NC42 b/c that’s what matches my skin tone. I can THINK of myself as a NC30 all I want…but that doesn’t mean I’ll become a NC30.
So you THINK you’re NC45…but NC40 looks too dark on you. Logic tells me that means you’re lighter than NC40. Soooo…what color is your exact match?
As for the rest…you’ve had plenty of guys ask you out…if they were not attracted to you physically, they wouldn’t have done that. Your fiance would not be marrying you if he wasn’t physically attracted to you. Of course there are guys out where who prefer super light-skinned women. I know guy who prefer blondes and will not date women who’re not blonde. So if one of those guys don’t think you’re beautiful, are you going to be depressed b/c you’re not blonde?
As redvelvet already wrote…Your MIL’s comments has nothing to do with you being kaali. I have WHITE friends who make comments about choosing a outfit color that suits them when they shop.
In life you will always encounter people who don’t like you for whatever reason. If you CHOOSE to focus on that…and take energy away from people who love/accept you for who you are…then you’re wasting precious time. If you continue to be so obsessed with your skin color this way…then yes, sooner or later you will fall into severe depression and that WILL effect your marriage/other relationships. So for the sake of your future…please work on your self-confidence and move on from the past.