Something I’ve noticed recently…some people frown down upon being invited to someone else’s family events, not for major things like a wedding or something but little get togethers/casual meetups etc. They’ll say “its a family gathering, you have no business there” (even though they’ve been invited)…
Is it a cultural thing? I have no clue. FWIW, I never really went out or had any parties growing up, now as an adult I’m friendly/on good terms with most of my friends siblings/relatives?..on the other side, while some of my friends know about my cousins (small world), they don’t know them personally although it’s not intentional…
(only cz, like, everyone seems to be in a consensus about sleepovers and I’ve never gotten it…so I was wondering if this is the same thing, that everyone seems to know/agree on and it’s just something I’m missing?)
She is asking what you guys think of the notion some people have of not attending other people’s family functions because they view these as family affairs that only involve the other person’s (the host’s) family and whether or not you have encountered this notion.
Example of the scenario she is referring to:
I invite @Pisiform to a small get together at my house. He declines because he feels that said get together is a family affair and feels that he would be out of place and has no business attending because he is not family.
I will def come if there is good food lol. Btw, Eid mubarak Meg
Anyways, in my family it is considered rude if someone invited you and you didn’t show up. You should come but you can leave early or even just drop by. But you gotta show your face.
People usually avoid are those who are not comfortable striking random conversation with strangers. I have been to couple of get together where I was invited but it was boring. Everyone who came was family and they knew each other so they were talking and gossiping and making inside jokes, discussing family stuff which I knew nothing about. I was isolated so I excused myself and left early. I am not the kind of person who jumps in the middle of someone’s conversation and make myself center of attention. One thing I hate is that if you are inviting someone, make sure you don’t isolate them, its disrespectful and sucks for the guest. So, you cant blame a guy for not going to someone’s get together after having these kinda bad experience.
or in another way, you invite @Pisiform and he accepts hte invite, but @usernamepassword will tell Pisiform, that no he has no business going out with you or joining you in anything bc it’s a family thing…even though Pisiform’s been invited before and is comfortable enough that he will accept the invite…
Maybe it’s just a weird thing I’ve encountered a few times, and not too common like the sleepover thing
I never heard of anything like it. If the host has invited someone, then that's all that matters. Unless the person got invited because the host felt pressured to do so by said person, I don't see an issue with it.
I go to such events. My take is that if they thought it would be an intrusion they wouldn't invite me. I think the nay Sayers are jealous.
Something I've noticed recently....some people frown down upon being invited to someone else's family events, not for major things like a wedding or something but little get togethers/casual meetups etc. They'll say "its a family gathering, you have no business there" (even though they've been invited).....
Is it a cultural thing? I have no clue. FWIW, I never really went out or had any parties growing up, now as an adult I'm friendly/on good terms with most of my friends siblings/relatives?...on the other side, while some of my friends know about my cousins (small world), they don't know them personally although it's not intentional...
(only cz, like, everyone seems to be in a consensus about sleepovers and I've never gotten it....so I was wondering if this is the same thing, that everyone seems to know/agree on and it's just something I'm missing?)
