How do you feel knowing that someone who’s not your spouse/SO finds you physically attractive? Does it make you happy and flattered or are you weirded it out by it?
And what if th person is more than attracted to you, the other person wants you? Is that okay, not okay and what do you do?
This question can be answered by single people as well.
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No one can have me unless I want them to have me so like me all u want but keep it to yourself.
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If it's a close relative or hubby's friend then it's totally creepy.
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It’s not a matter of you giving yourself to them - but agar kisi ki buri nazar hai, doesn’t knowing that weird you out?
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It's not a matter of you giving yourself to them - but agar kisi ki buri nazar hai, sn't that weird you out?
No it does not bother me. I can not restrict anyone's "nazar" or "sooch". They are free to think whatever they want to think, I care less.
Yes I do care and response appropriately if they take concrete steps to fulfill their desire(s)
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Err..depends how stalky they get? Also depends on my FB relationship status at the time
I'd be flattered as long as they don't actually act on their feelings I guess? Love from door se and all that?
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Its a very uncomfortable feelings and not something i can enjoy! :nono: I will be compelled to keep away from them even if i may have actually liked them too. I have experienced this that when people get little too close for my comfort, i get real uncomfortable and turned off.
I would definately keep my distance.
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That would be bad. I would try to avoid the person and will definitely let my husband and my family know about this.
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My reaction would depend on how attractive I find them....if its a hot dude, hell I would be beyond flattered. Otherwise, meh!
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I've been trying to approach this delicately but maybe a better way to describe the scenario is, what is they look at you with lust in their eyes?
How do you reconcile that with wanting to look good and being well-maintained? Do you think that your actions in looking attractive contributed to their buri nazar?
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If you're not in lust with them then regardless of how attractive you find them...you'd better keep your distance.
And no, you can't blame it on your attractiveness that someone doesnt know their limits.
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If we know someone is finding us attractive we’re not supposed to like that…isn’t it? Otherwise that would be wrong.
We went to this Arab place for food on eid (with kids) and the owner kept looking at me and he made it so obvious that even my husband noticed and became a bit annoyed. I felt so guilty (as though it was my fault 
). I never went to that place again. That dude really spoilt it for us. 
I guess it’s easier to avoid strangers though.
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totally uncomfortable especially if they said something knowing that I am married.
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because they are tharky andallotherpossiblegaliyan 
No it doesnt make me feel pleased. I remember once a friend very naively told me that her husband says “I like that friend of yours”. Well I havent even talked to him or met him except for only once and that too was very brief. But even then, the sentence troubled me and made me uneasy. Being a woman, we are quick to read and see though the gestures. Well in my case I know its because my friend mentions her friends in front of her husband, which i do find a silly thing on a woman/wife’s part to do.
I would say modesty and hayaa are very important and highlighted for this very reason. Not only it makes a woman reserved in her looks and gestures, I would say, except for some real evil ones, men usually tend to respect such women too, who behave with modesty, after all men, not everyone of them, are evils or wild. When you sought to look attractive then what else will you be having in return really. In an average circumstance, if it happens with me, i think my best move will be to ignore such thing, and it will die I am sure, when it doesnt get a chance to breed.
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How do you reconcile that with wanting to look good and being well-maintained? Do you think that your actions in looking attractive contributed to their buri nazar?
Yes (also refer to my previous post where I felt guilty afterwards).
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yah
No. I enjoy looking nice and it has nothing to do with them.
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If you're good lookin' then I mean what the heck....people are going to like you. It's not your fault, d'ohhhh!
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it makes me feel uncomfortable and wierd, don't like being in such situations...
Being found attractive by someone not your spouse
I would be flattered but the hubs not so much!!! I would find it insanely creepy if it was his family member or friend and creepier if it was my own hehe
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I would feel flattered but only if it was done with a class. For instance, if a friend of my wife tells my wife that TLK bhai is looking good in this shirt or something similar, I would feel good. If the same friend approaches me and whisper 'oh you are looking hot today' I would freak out.