One of my game systems is broken and my mom is glad it is and won't pay me any money to get a new one
Why is your mom not giving money for a new game system?- Because they're expensive. It's not easy to shell out $200. Parents can't always give their kids new game systems, there are other expenses. And game systems take time away from school. If it's a PS, Xbox, Wii, whatever... more time in front of the TV, less time doing homework, chores, etc. Your mom isn't really being unfair, IMO. You said "One of my game systems is broken" so you have more than one. The fact that you even have at least one game system is a big deal. There are lots of kids out there who don't have any, their parents can't afford it.
Also she can give graduation money to my cousins but not bs for my graduation in fifth grade.
she never gave me a present during my birthdays. nor even a birthday wish. so i guess i am less then my cousins now. thats how she treats them.
Were your cousins graduating from high school or the fifth grade? There's a BIG difference. Seriously? Presents for fifth grade graduation? It's more of an obligation for your mom to give money... especially if it's for high school graduation.
I'm not trying to put you down here. I just think you really need to look at what you have and appreciate it. Try to help your mom out with the chores. It doesn't mean you have to cook and be a maid. But clean your room and the common areas. Realize that almost all Pakistani girls go through this. But I do think it's wrong for your cousin to say that to you and you need to talk to both of your parents about this. Mention that your cousins might be getting encouragement from your mother to say such things and it's hurtful. And don't be so down :)
GA,
Try looking at things from your mom's point-of-view as well (not talking about the insults here). She loves you...and maybe unknowingly (not deliberately) you may be causing her stress. For example, make the effort to help her out with chores. When she's in a calm mood...........ask her HOW to do/make something (since she says you don't know how to do anything). Ask her calmly to show you. Better yet....................take the initiative..............and then ask her advice. For example.....take the initiative too cook something.....and ask her for for help. That makes you look proactive. If she often has to ask you do something......she may feel frustrated because to her that could mean that you're not interested in doing certain chores/things on your own.
May not be able to change your mom, but try to meet her half way.
RedVelvet is right. You can't change others, but what you can change is yourself. It sounds like to me that your mother may have had her own insecurities growing up that she is placing those feelings on you. She probably wants to see these positive qualities in you so you don't grow up feeling the way she did? I don't know how well this would work on desi parents but perhaps you can use assertive communication in terms of letting her know how you feel. Just say mom I feel __when you _I would like you to_____. Just remember to check and be aware of your tone when you do that. The thing that can do to help the situation is to make an active effort to pursue some of those positive qualities can help pacify her?
The thing your mother probably doesn't understand is that family dynamics are different for everybody, and everybody's temperament/personality is going to lead them to make their choices. These girls can be really different at home everybody presents their charming selves in public, its when you see them on a constant at home basis when their true qualities surface.