I’m sure A LOT of us have been through that. I hear moms talking bad or making fun of their own kids. They’ll make fun/insult of their own kids’ clothes, urdu, cooking, chores, etc. But that’s the thing. Pakistani mothers think it’s ok for them to insult their own kids, but when someone else does it, they don’t like it as much. Even IF they support it… EVENTUALLY… trust me… they realize their mistake or change. Especially when that daughter is older, going onto college, getting married. Mothers become more protective then, more so because of reputation… they won’t talk bad about their daughters and won’t stand it if someone else talks bad about them either.
You’re just at a tough age, have patience. If other aunties are taking advantage of what you’re mom is saying about you and insulting you, you need to tell your mom (and dad) that she’s exposing her weakness and letting others take advantage of it. Either your cousin is a retard or she knows that your mother talks bad about you that she took advantage of it and insulted you. You can bring that up with your mom and dad.