That’s just how Pakistani moms are. And you’re only 14, you’re going to have to tolerate more. But try telling your mom that so and so cousin of yours isn’t really all that, that you’re not as bad as she thinks you are.
^Tell your mom. Mothers probably get hurt when others insult their kids. They can insult their own kids, but if someone else does it, that’s a big no-no. I’ve seen aunties tell others that they’re kids are getting fat, and the mothers say something smart back or you can see the uncomfortable disapproving look on their face.
And the next time your cousin says crap like that, tell her, “Thanks! I didn’t know I was so unattractive. But I guess we actually have something in common… if you hear yourself, you’ll realize how unattractive your personality is, haha (then walk away)” … stupid people these days 