Being civil with your ex after your marriage

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Re: Being civil with your ex after your marriage

The main thing I noticed, that no one else here has mentioned yet...is the question of why did the wife not know of his past to being with? It is my belief that when you start a life with someone, you should be open about your past. Those saying that the wife is being insecure are taking away all responsibility from the husband who should have told his wife this. I would be horrified if I suddenly found out that someone I was getting friendly with was actually my husbands ex. I would have wanted to know that from the beginning. I think the husband should apologize to his wife for not telling her earlier, and address the wife's concerns by cutting off all private contact with his ex, aside from the pleasantries one exchanges with people they encounter in a social setting.

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Re: Being civil with your ex after your marriage

I was going to ask the same thing, why didn't the wife even know about this person as his ex till later! this is something she should of known before she even knew this girl personally. she has all the right to feel the way she is and husband dude should of been responsible from the beginning, especially if their circles are so small that run into other that often. and IMO if they've interacted/ run into each other more than once since the husband/wife have been married, thats way more than necessary. it cant possibly be that difficult for anyone to avoid an ex if they really wanted to!