a friend of mine who has one of the best physique ( not too buffed up and not too lean sort ) i’ve seen in my life so far ( my inspiration ).. fell for this girl..they both dated for like 2 years..he graduated from college and sent rishta to her home.. the main reason of refusing rishta from the girl side was that he is built and he must have a lot of relationships in the past.. but the girl know this is not the case… but girl’s parents are hesitating…
As far as i know the guy is pretty decent, comes from a very good family ( one can actually tell with the way he speaks ), they’re well established here in Toronto etc..
My question is that does being built and fit create an impression that the guy may have relationships in the past and/or have aggressive kind of personality ?
Re: Being built for a guy is a big NO NO for rishtas?
not just that if you take care of your appearance then ppl say- he looks like a player...
i mean how can they say that they have no idea whether, I..I mean that person is in fact a playa..but just based on appearances they make assumptions without any info..
Re: Being built for a guy is a big NO NO for rishtas?
well, girl's family didnt say no right away but actually gave the girl the advice to think about it since he's built and he may have had past relationships or may still be having one.. girl told the guy about this issue by calling him..and he was shocked!
Re: Being built for a guy is a big NO NO for rishtas?
I honestly don't think it's such a big deal that you have to stop working out...so no reason to quit working out and becoming a lazy bum.
Although i could understand the family's reservatins, if the guy is so buff and good looking, he might think he's too good looking for the girl, and think he deserves better...I"m not saying it's right at all, but it's there..Typically the girl is supposed to be the pretty one, plus ppl are pretty horrible, if they see a good loking guy with an average girl, there tends to be more "haters" thrown at her than him...which is not fair.
There is another angle to it..........the image of Body Builders is not too positive......pehalvaan types are not supposed to be too bright intellectually....somehow people think they have taken steroids to develop those muscles.......
and that is absolutely wrong....because I know Phd's and Doctors who have excellent physique!
so Frozenfire I suggest you keep going to the gym......
but do not flaunt it if you got the muscular physique...:)
Re: Being built for a guy is a big NO NO for rishtas?
and so what if he DID have past relationships? does that somehow reflect upon how their marriage will turn out? No. Will he have girls throwing themselves at him cuz he is hot...maybe. but will he cheat on her? that cannot be predicted because both cute and ugly people cheat on their spouses...
yeah so he takes care of himself and was maybe attractive to the opposite sex for that reason in the past. why in the world would you want to marry a guy that wasnt? taking care of yourself...to me...shows that you have discipline and respect your body.
FF dont let this bakwaas mentality stop u from keeping yourself fit!
Re: Being built for a guy is a big NO NO for rishtas?
haha… thats insane i dont think a certain build can mean the person is a player.. i would understand if his clothing and accessorizing was like that, then the parents would have their reservations… but just cuz he is buff he will be a player.. thats silly..
i remember the first time my family saw my husband to be, they thought… ‘we dont think so’ more so because of how small and itsy bitsy i was and how big and tall he was.. they thought together we looked sooo odd… but that was more a joke and my husband thought it was teh cutest sight ever… *tumhay apnay pocket mein rakhlu mein if ure tired from walking * and many more of such jokes… some family members still find us an odd pair..we are opp in every physical trait u can think of.. but oh well
You should be afraid to go the gym now. Very afraid. When the rishta was sent from my family, I was fat. Really really fat. I thought they might want to reject me based on that alone. When they said yes, I was so surprised that I had my mother get two additional confirmations that they really did say yes. So if you want to have any hope of getting married, drop any ideas of getting into shape.
If you haven't guessed by now, I'm just kidding. It's a true story though, but you shouldn't let one or two examples scare you. On the other hand, I know of some families where they want the guy to live up to be up to a certain standard in looks in addition to education, religiousness, character, ability to support their daughter etc.
i dont think a certain build can mean the person is a player.. i would understand if his clothing and accessorizing was like that, then the parents would have their reservations… but just cuz he is buff he will be a player.. thats silly..
