I’ve been a really bad friend to this girl I have known for a very, very long time. She got married in December and came back in January. Although she contacted me herself, I have not called her back to even say congratulations, nor gone to visit her or given her anything. My excuses are pathetic, and the more time passed, the more I felt uncomfortable contacting her because I didn’t know what to say to her. Now it’s been more than five months. What should I do? The worst thing is that she is here alone without family, so I had more of an obligation to be a good friend, and plus I know her family and I am wondering what they think of me!
Re: Being a horrible friend
I think you should be honest with her...just tell her how you feel, and apologize ...and make up for it...if you really care.
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Sarah...People like yourself and me are recluses from the heart...
We can't seem to fit in 'normal' societies' and carry out 'normal' conversations involving gas prices or the fashion...
Don't know about you, but that's the way it's for me...
And since keeping in touch and being part of a circle entails being 'normal', we shun out...
We may be wonderful when around people and people enjoy our company and so on, but when away, we lose sight...Outta sight outta mind kinda thing...
Some things are obligations which I guess we owe others and which are expected of us...
I, however, have changed myself a lot...I have deflated my pride a lot in the past few years and started doing normal things, things I guess which involve being normal...
It's not easy, but it gets seasier...
I just stop at a point where I think I am whoring myself and being unnatural...
It starts by being forgiving and accepting...
Re: Being a horrible friend
You are right Lajawab.
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Shame on u Sarah.
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what were ur excuses?
Lajawaab bhai, u hit it on the nail
Re: Being a horrible friend
People lika lajjo give themselves too much importance. Everyone feels that way. We all engage in "small poeple" conversation to oil the world and help it turn on its axis a little easier. Most people, for example, dont care how you are this morning, its simply nice to extend the sentiment, the caring is secondry. Now to prolong your non-contact is somewhat selfish, as you are worried mroe about you and your feeling embarrased rathre than her feelings of rejection and her being shunned. You should forget about yourself, apologise heartily and explain to her that you are really sharminda and thats why you took even longer than is polite. She will likely be understanding (as we are all the same) and be nice and so on.