R U really frustrated noo , thn I am a big lier…so u too
I just read an i log…silent tear…pretty romantic nick..tears are silent… Being a girl is miserable…***one sentence 5 words say *the whole story… **
and just from the sentence i assumed that she is also some pakistani female who is as frustated as I was when i went through** the fight between being a woman and a pakistani**…
Its still there first it was the career choice...now it will be "whose going to be the lucky guy"...arrange marriage versus love marriage..."be good and honorable let the family decide"...then it will be fight between being a perfect mother and a perfect worker.......or will I be able to work or will he allow me to practice the skills i acquired by studying boring stupid mathematics...working late when girls of my age where getting married...or were having the so called good life... we are decision takers not decision makers...that frustates females at the large...
Its not a myth its reality...**the society is tough crude raw**... and its not only pakistan its also india and bangladash...at least in pakistan we survive in our mothers wombs unlike our indian sisters...we enjoy a certain leverage and respect...still and an over protected environment I hated...but still i miss it...
In Pakistan specifically and south asia generally female bear the burden of being a female.
In lower strata families and lower income group she is the poorest among poor and illiterate between the most illiterate…
But its not only economics its power structures what Dr Aliya Khan use to suggest in the labor economics class..
power relations power groups…
However the story is just not about skill human resource low on the job training ,low wage rates.its just abt being a woman…Its biology its nature…and its some thing kind of a fate…
i want to hate the males for being chavinist..but in these males I also have a father who is adorable..who has made me the kind of human Being I am..who is a mentor and a teacher…
A brother who is more or less like a frd…and there is a long list..
Its tough to struggle between career and family…
its tough to prove that you want to have a stable family life a kitchen which is as good as a house wife 's and a career which prove ur capabilities as a worker…
we have gone a long way up..engineers doctors economists teachers females are there but so is the work place harrasment..and the realities which are associated with being a female…
**so wats the end of the story… **
yes its tough to be single above 22,a proffesional who is not a doctor or a teacher and then again a pakistani female. **
If u are all the above then there is a long list of presumptions like u can never be a good house wife or a good mother…
all random thoughts…
I am no longer a rebel…i have travelled a long way up..it does nt help..it just frustates u…
Its just trying to make a balance between choices which one can never do…
and its same either its toronto or lahore…the coin has the same face…
its better ..to compromise and accept **and try to make change through evolution then revolution…In the end the story is same…and then u are pertinent and resorse.
some time regrets about choices we had and choices we made…
I guess iam not that feminist any more…
So come out with ur comments ..and help me out
thts it.
So now u think …
**I am Pakistani Woman and damn proud of one. I don’t take crap from anyone. I do speak up and simply dont have any patience for any type of BullS. I got some major issues with MEN who feel women are second class citizen. I do scream, yell, curse and beat the crap out of them if i have too. I so state my point clearly and afraid of Allah only. A man cannot shut me down for reaching wherever and whatever i want to accomplish i just dont let them get to me *grin.
Now if you feel speaking up for my rights and for my beliefs makes me a feminist - SO LET IT BE
I honestly don’t care what the world calls me. :~)
I know its me against this world … i am up for it :~) **
ok then im a female and even though i aint as old as everyone here i still am proud of being a gal
and i dont take no bull**** from guys becos at the end of the day they hve no right to look down at us and call us second class citizens and any guy that wants to say that can come here and i will be glad to beat some sense into them..........and yeh gals have to o through problems like this through life but then agen that is life so i will still stand up and say that i am proud to be a gal............lol
