Beheshti Zewar

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Re: Beheshti Zewar

@Muzna

here is an excerpt:

2. As long as the ‘iddah is not completed, it is harâm to carry out the following acts:
   (a) to apply perfume
   (b) to scent clothing
   (c) to wear jewellery and ornaments
   (d) to wear or suspend flowers (eg. from the hair)
   (e) to apply surmah (antimony)
   (f) to redden the mouth by eating betel leaves
   (g) to rub tooth powder (with the intention of colouring the teeth)
   (h) to apply oil to the head
   (i) to comb the hair
   (j) to apply henna
   (k) to wear beautiful clothes
   (l) to wear silk, dyed or colourful clothes.
   However, if the clothes are not colourful, it will be permissible to wear them irrespective of what colour they may be. The condition is that they must not be clothes that are used to beautify oneself

and some more…

4. The wife can go to visit her parents once a week. She can go to visit all her other relatives once a year. She cannot demand more
   than this. Similarly, her parents can visit her once a week. The husband has the right to prevent them from coming more often. All her
   other relatives can visit her once in the year and not more than this. The husband has the right to prevent them from visiting her more
   often. He can exercise this right over her parents and other relatives as well. It should be borne in mind that relatives in this context
   refer to those relatives with whom marriage is harâm forever. As for other relatives who do not fall within this category (such as
   cousins), they will be regarded as absolute strangers.

2. do you guys do party during iddat?
   and you left whole other paragraphs of leniency where writer said that women can step out from home if she is sole earner of the family during iddat.

“If the wife of any of you seeks permission to go to the masjid, he may not prevent her.” [Muslim & Bukhari]

This implies, other than that wife supposed to take permission.

“And stay in your homes and do not display yourselves like the ways of the time of ignorance. And establish the prayer, pay the zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger…” [Noble Quran 33:33]