Beginning a family vs completing school/starting a career

[Lusi]

Re: Beginning a family vs completing school/starting a career

Ayesha, I am in US (minnesota). in terms of family, only my father lives close to us, he loves baby sitting our little one on weekends, but we try to get done with shopping in couple hours. i have lot friendswho have volunteered to babysit whenever we need. my husband literally makes it possible for me, he motivates me, helps with the chores, and supports me emotionally and physically in every possible manner. alhamdulilah. Again, it is hard work but doable.

@ayeshaz

Thank you everyone for all your replies and examples
I am 24, hubby is 30. My parents and inlaws are back home, we dont really have much family here except for hubbys uncles and aunts spread all over Canada and states…my husband sponsored his parents about 4 years ago, so thats also in process (he is hoping they will get here in a year or two inshAllah).

The only thing I do not want to do is take another gap post graduation, as while I was doing my undergrad I got married, and then was waiting for my visa so never really got a chance to begin masters as everything was in limbo…so i ended up taking a 2 year break from studies (I learnt french meanwhile and did internships and also wrote freelance and had a clothing business too)…so now that I want to continue studies, I would like to start working after that too so the degree does not go to waste. I was looking into hearing from people who were studying/had a baby and were working/had a baby..so thanks for the examples

Lusi: Where are you based? You sure do sound like a superwoman, I wish I can manage it like you! I do not mind taking advantage of the support system at all, infact, i am one of the few people who actually enjoyed living in a joint family post marriage and mashAllah my inlaws are really encouraging and supportive (becharey they used to pick and drop me to university and my internship, my bro and sis in law helped with my thesis and all too