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I guess i shoulda shared my experience as well, before i got married, i knew that there will be rough patches and a marriage isn't about the dresses and makeup and that the real life begins once ur together...So mentally you could say i was prepared, even though i know i did not know him very well at all. I cant say that i was terrified at all..maybe i didn't have enough time to be scared?
I know there are more people, and i'd love to hear their thoughts on this......
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i've still got loadz of time left, but i still get a little nervous when i think about the 'new life'. i know him well, and can talk to him easily, but it's not the same as living and seeing that person almost 24h a day. i just hope i can adjust easily, without any big problems :s
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Do you know #1 reason for DIVORCE is Marrige!!
If we end the marriges, there will be NO MORE DIVORCES! Period!
Just somefin to think about
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a few weeks before my wedding, i did feel nervous and insecure about myself, me and hubby, well i already knew id found my soulmate, but we hadn't met yet, so things were scary. but in the days leading up to the wedding, i got married in pakistan, and it was my first time there after 11 years, so i was just spaced out, really just out of the zone lol. i met hubby and we chatted the day before my mehndi, and after that i didnt feel nervous anymore, was excited. but still mostly just spaced out lol. things didn't really sink in until i arrived back home. i think the whole thing was a bit overwhelming.
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Well i have not seen too many bechlors wishing for marriage, but i have heard many married men who are against marriage.
so the polls say that after marriage life is more panic.
it may be very pleasant and happy life but for the first year of marriage only.where there is only love and love and love.
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hmm... i m happy... will be getting married soon...
my fiance' is very nice but i... dont... infact... cldnt feel happy... coz
my sister's... inlaws r very bad.... n all the time.... i keep thinking abt her....
how can.. i be happy.. when my sister... is not happy...
i m so confused... i... dont know... though my finace' is very nice.. he... supports me very very much... but... how can i be happy alone :(
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I got married 1.5 yrs back. There were many things going on at that time that were over shadowing my wedding. I really didn’t got to feel any panic cuz there was something else going on either in his or my family. I was kind of feeling depressed of the sitations at both end – neither of them were regarding our upcoming wedding /marriage.
When the date was getting close I was more focused on the wedding party itself and wanted each detail to be perfect. I guess I was Bridezilla:D hehehe
We had a very beautiful nikkah ceremony and the moments when I said yes, signed the papers and got my wedding ring from him, I felt like I was in a trance. However when rukhsati was nearing I stared to feel this pain of leaving my parents and siblings behind but didn’t really cry but the next day when we were flying off to his country it just hit me that I am moving for good and I cried a lot but was hiding it from everybody.
He is a wonderful husband and takes care of me in every possible way. I just love him:D
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dont be sad… Allah sab behtar karay ga inshAllah
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i'm getting married in august inshallah...im really nervous- mostly about my wedding day which is stupid i no but after so much preparation its always scary to think how things will turn out on the day..as for married life, im marrying the guy i love so alhamdulilah im not too nervous but the thought of leaving my family..esp my little sister (shes downsyndrome) is killing me :( im such a loser i cry every night!
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i knew my husband for a long time before our marriage, 6 yrs plus. the period before the wedding was full of confusion and sadness since his parents were not here to support our union...it was a very hurtful time so i dont think or talk much abt it now. A lot of thoughts rushed to my mind during that period, some days i used to think the wedding would be called off or he'll leave me after a short while or something bad will happen to his parents....still we stuck with each other. Well, we were extremely happy on our wedding....and I can't remember a dull moment ever since and it's been almost 1.5 yrs of our marriage. He turned out to be an awesome human being and a wonderful husband! Alhumdulillah!
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^ Awwww! 
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i knew my husband for a long time before our marriage, 6 yrs plus. the period before the wedding was full of confusion and sadness since his parents were not here to support our union...it was a very hurtful time so i dont think or talk much abt it now. A lot of thoughts rushed to my mind during that period, some days i used to think the wedding would be called off or he'll leave me after a short while or something bad will happen to his parents....still we stuck with each other. Well, we were extremely happy on our wedding....and I can't remember a dull moment ever since and it's been almost 1.5 yrs of our marriage. He turned out to be an awesome human being and a wonderful husband! Alhumdulillah!
That's beautiful CA :)
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I was nervous but knew I wanted to be with him deep in my heart.
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i was sooo xcited abt bein a dulhan and js planned so much toward dt day dt i dint think abt wt i wud feel bt once the papers were signed and we were tken into a separate room to tke pictures it sunk in dt i ws his wife and dt this beautifull dude ws my husband and i felt so much secure and strong .. we r cousins so we knew each other bt we were together for 3 years before we gt married. haha we decided to get together widout parents approval n den d mangni happened.
6 months on n he is a patient loving caring husband n im a brat hahahha