im begining to become depressed, or atleast very very annoyed anxious and upset and angry and my life right now. each day seems to drag and going back home to uk in march seems miles away. i know its only 4 monhs, but i want a way out now. NOW. and its impossible now. i need some uplifiting advice guys. i cant keep hassling hubby, at the end of the day its me against his mother, no matter how much he takes my side, it IS HIS MOTHER. im finding i cant ignore her anymore and im waiting to snap.
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Be thankful you're in Pakistan. It's bloody cold here and Gordon Brown is still increasing the gas/electricity rates.
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^^ Grass is always greener on the other side :D
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are these serious answers.
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spend a week in a very very remote area and u will love your life.
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i just want to go home. 
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then go right now whats stopping you ??
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If i were u i will be calming myself down by listening quran with translation or by listening to some Dars/Dr. Zakir Naik lecture and read more islamic books. This is the best way to face challenges of life :)
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3 viable options for you:
-DEMAND from your hubby to send you back to the UK NOW!
-DEMAND your hubby to keep you in a SEPARATE DWELLING NOW [in whatever city in Pakistan you are]
-Leave Pakistan on your own [even secretly, if need be!]
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beginning??? 
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its impossible now.
You may have mentioned this in a previous thread and I just can't remember it........but what exactly is preventing you from leaving Pakistan like tomorrow? If you feel so depressed and are on the verge of snapping........Why is it impossible for you and the kids to leave now?
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Hang in there Nadz.. Can you not start making plans for positive things for when u get bk? Decorating your home bk in the UK etc.
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If you can leave for the UK now, then do so......although i don't know if that would leave a negative impression on your in-laws and more importantly your husband. You can choose not to fight back and engage in the power struggle. You can choose to let some things roll off your shoulders as opposed to letting them get under your skin and give your husband a hassle about it. You can choose to leave Pak on a more positive note. You can't control them but think about whether your own reactions are helping the situation or only fueling it. You will go back to the UK with your husband and live away from your in-laws. But since your husband is the one n only son of his parents....it's possible that you might be living with your inlaws again at a later point. What then? I know it's easier said than done....but try let some things slide for your own sanity.
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like rvsaid, it nwill leave a negative impact on husband, its not like mil is outto kill me or anythin, maybe i should let thins roll off my back but its hard. husband does understand but its hard for him too to see this. i could cope better, but im not. if i had the same issues back in uk, i would probably cope better. i know i would. here i feel alone as well as all the rest of it. leaving in march as planned would leave a btter impression and i know husband would be totally on my side. i need to be clver as well not just huff and puff and leave and let mil stir things afterwards.
rv- hes the oldest, he has a younbger brother, but hes not working hes studying and husband is waiting til he weds maybe in a year or so....we planned that once im back il need to apply for husbands visa so itl take a year anyway so husband has enough time not to feel guilty at leaving.
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i have plans for doing up my room here in pak. at the inlaws place. we are refurbishing our room so thats all nice and i have 2 kids thank god who occupy my time. but i just feel dead.
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You may have mentioned this in a previous thread and I just can't remember it........but what exactly is preventing you from leaving Pakistan like tomorrow? If you feel so depressed and are on the verge of snapping........Why is it impossible for you and the kids to leave now?
husbands sake. i want to do this for him. its only another 4months. but for me it feels like 4 years.