har aik ki preference hai...in every way...color...height...width...just bcos some ppl don't find black attractive...doesn't mean they are racists or backwards....there are ppl who can't stand white ppl...what would you call them? humans with opinions?
Zaroor, har aik ki preference hoti hi, laykin I am asking, is this still a valid preference for the youth of today?
For instance, some generations ago, a woman's education and profession did not matter to potential suitors. As long as she had completed the basic standards higher education was not a must. Of course today, a well-educated, erudite bahu is a quality that most MILs look for. In the past a daughter in law working outside the home was frowned upon, now MILs are happy to say, "my son the doctor is also marrying a doctor!" And even if education is not important to in-laws, in this day and age, every young man is looking for a partner that is interested in higher learning.
Suffice it to say, once where a woman's education and profession did not matter, this generation has proved that these qualities are highly preferred in a partner.
In the same token, have we broken out of the skin-color mold? Are our young men disregarding the notion that white is alright and black is whack? Just as they have started to appreciate the value of a sound education, have they also started to recognize the uselessness of skin color?
I understand that we each have personal preferences and that is natural. To look for a mate that is intelligent, hard working, honest, kind, sincere, just and yes, even attractive is understandable. But has skin color become passe?
Isn't it as highly subjective, relatively useless and ridiculously picky as looking for a bahu with green eyes, long black hair, slender fingers or delicate feet?
And finally, is dark skin still considered ugly or unattractive? Are our young men (and women) finally realizing that people of all skin tones are seriously sexy?
(This is a topic that is near and dear to me, as I had a very close, very masoum cousin who's forced engagement was ultimately broken because her fiance often reminded her that he did not chose to marry a dark skinned girl like her. It kills me because she has gorgeous features and a lovely figure. If her skin was lighter, people would write poetry about her. But she's getting the short end of the stick because she lives in a country where such things are still practiced.)