Re: Baseless concerns in potential hookups
why is everyone against the girl? in my opinion its the guys fault....if he truly loved her....he would respect her wishes/concerns. my guy doesnt have any female friends and neither do I have any male friends...and things are perfect between us. its when other girls/guys come into it that things start messing up.
You assumed too much. It is not stated anywhere that guy loves her. They both are getting to know each other and this proposal is arranged. so it is wrong IMO that guy should start adhering to her wishes and conerns just because they might be hooked up.
How would you like it if she was chatting away to a guy on the phone whilst married to you? But then again you don't mind having female 'friends', so you seem like a pretty open kind of guy.
Exactly. The guy would not mind this one bit unless its out of limits.
She isn't backward and oh yeah, why should she compromise her limits for someone? I wouldn't. If the guy who was a potential insisted that he keep female friends after marriage then i'd think deeply coz somewhere along the lines things are gonna blow because I will not tolerate it.
Look. The guy has not 'insisted' on having female friends after life. He is mature enough to realize that friendsships can fade away after marriages and he is open to this fact. The thing is that she initiated such a discussion whereas he has yet to impose something on her. How would you feel if your potential starts saying to you 'hey you cannot go anywhere alone' and 'hey if you dont wear a burqa, I will object'.... I am pretty sure that guy would be labelled an extremist and conservative individual.
It has nothing to do with jelousy or insecurities, it just shows that the guy is way more open and liberal, and the girl holds more traditional and islamic values.
It has nothing to do with Islamic values. Truse me on that :) someone up there hit the nail on the head by stating 'From the way she was raised (semi conservative), she probably has this idea that all female and male friendship require intimacy in an innapropriate level. '. I am not saying that girl is conservative on traditional in every aspect but this thing is potentially quite destructive and I agree with you here.