Re: Baseless concerns in potential hookups
It’s not a bad combo, one compliments the other. Well there’s conservative as in old fashioned and then there’s…backwards. Actually the description in the thread is pretty much my husband and myself. He also had a few female friends except I never imposed any rules on him. I became friends with a couple of the girls but others have naturally faded to the background after our marriage and after they themselves have moved on with their lives. This girl in Chandler’s thread is showing her lack of trust or even her own insecurity when she has to TELL her husband what to do. There are more sublte ways of getting her message accross so that he naturally realizes that he can create a happy marriage by making a few simple sacrifices.
I know that my husband had so many girls who befriended him and trusted him because he was a good guy. He didn’t hit on them like other guys did. He never had sisters but he had a very buddy sort of relationship with his mother. He is the comedien of the family and teases his mother to no end. So he’s this way, with all girls. It’s kind of funny now that we have two daughters. He’s like their best friend too. And it’s a good thing that I’m a bit more conservative. Because when he’s joking around and letting them throw pillow fights at 10pm, I have to pick up the peices and impose the rules. We’d have a pretty chaotic home if both of us were so loose and easy. So I think it’s important for a woman to be a bit more conservative and occasionally give her husband a little discipline when required.