Re: Barri expectations
actually that "hindu" culture you're speaking of is your culture unless you have no ancestors that moved from india to pakistan.
I believe there are many couples who don't live with their in-laws so in the end the gifts they give to the bride doesn't go back to them nor should it but I do agree people shouldn't compare with others and just be grateful although what your in-laws give you may give you a hint to how they think about you, you shouldn't be hindered by it.
A gift always shows what a persons intentions were doesn't it? If they are ugly and do not fit you then obviously they don't care but if the gift is beautiful and fits right you are to be treated as a jewel..
thats just my opinion anyway
I don't know, I have both...although by the weirdness of your answer i'm starting to wonder what life is going to be like my kids, who are half pakistani, half indian. Maybe i'll teach them to call themselves only Canadian and save them a whole lot of hate from both Indians and Pakistanis. Also, I'm just plain muslim, and that's what matters to me.
The fact is, Most of the Indian subcontinent was ruled by muslims until the brits came. under muslim rule hindus and sikhs practice their religion, so we learned a thing or two from them, and one of them, like it or not, was the dowry system. The bride burnings in pakistan that Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy highlighted in her documentary are a part of that same patriarchal and tyrannical system. Those who don't learn their history repeat it.
what i mean by going to our in-laws is that our relationship is going to be in that family, for the most part. As for ugly clothes, well...some people just have bad taste unfortunately...lol.