I recite ayat ul kursi & 4 qul daily, is that enough to remove bandish on you in all matters in life esp marriage? .......some ammil say there is nothing like bandish but only delay in marriage so what should be done to get married asap? ..... is there anything u can recite for that?
You can try reciting the following:
Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqeer. This is the dua that Hazrat Musa made, after which he was granted both a job and a spouse.
It’s really easy and you can recite it in abundance throughout the day as you’re doing chores about house or walking around etc. I haven’t tried it with regularity myself. But that’s an option you can look into.
If you are able to recite something longer, then try these ayats from surah Talaq. The translation speaks of Allah preparing a way out and providing from sources one cannot fathorm. And given what you have mentioned about your situation, you need a ‘way out’ from Allah. I have been meaning to recite this myself but have never gotten around to it and working full time makes it more challenging. But I have read that people have found it very effective.
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Whenever I feel threatened or concerned I try to make plans and strategies, our business has been really slow and lots of layoffs etc have been happening so part of my plan is to work harder, smarter and look better so I am eating a lot healthier, soups, salads, minimizing drinking and exercising and have lost 15lbs, have way more energy, better stress management and more energy to pursue business goals and a better attitude. So look at what potential good rishtas are looking for them, where can you interact with them, what will attract them etc and work on that.
Reciting will not help.
If it did, all those 30-plus women would already be married now.
If it did, all the jobless people wont be jobless.
Go out and try and find a match for you, be more adventurous, think out of the box.
May be someone at your work, gym, place of worship, social circle, even on the internet might is looking for you,
Best wishes
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Thanks…
i have heard one shouldnt recite without ijazat as that can be harmful … whats ur take on this? … sometimes i think reciting anything wont make no difference as marriage has its time written by Allah and no reciting will make it happen … so whats the point? 
ofcourse one tries to look and recite something also too … both things can be done together …
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Any recitation you do would be a form of prayer. And there is nothing wrong in combining prayer with actual efforts. I think that sometimes those without faith assume that all their believing counterparts will only rely on prayer and not move a finger.
Put yourself out there as much as you can and let your friends know to keep an eye out for potential rishtas for you. You may very well find someone online, but please be very careful with this avenue.
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It's easy to fall prey to victim mentality and blame others but sometimes to point fingers, we don't have to stretch our hand too far out.
Before indulging wazifaas, take some time out and have an objective, very honest critical look at your approach from a neutral 3rd party's view. Are your expectations reasonable? are you putting too many conditions/restrictions, are you looking in the right places, is your demeanor, way of interaction something that might be putting potentials off?
In my own circle I've seen handful situations where person was just too airtight about themselves, coming off with strong haughty vibes, rejecting tons of good, suitable matches on very flimsy grounds, continued years after years until they realized life is passing them by fast and ended up settling down with the ones that you look at and say 'man, what was that all about?'
Even on this board, you could dig up similar cases, who're now banging their heads up against the wall, hardly 2, 3 years into marriage.
If your honest critique of yourself gives you a clear conscience, only then turn to higher ups. Being honest with ourselves is often the most difficult challenge we all face in our lives. Am not singling you out, it's just human nature.
Peace @bourjois
Be patience as Almighty Allah with those who have patience. In addition to what you’re reading and what other members suggested (to read azkar), you may not loose hope and always seek help of Almighty Allah with Saalath and patient.
Every picture have two aspect. One is bright and another is dark. You have seen only one aspect when you see a woman and her husband and children going out. Do not let sorrow overcome to you that you’re still not married. Who knows that woman have a cruel-heart husband and her children do not respect her. What I mean there are many other dark aspects of unsuccessful marriage life which yet you came across.
Delaying in marriage doesn’t mean you are unfortunate nor does let it make you feel that you have been wronged, or that you deprived? Do not let these negative feelings and frustrations prevail over you and increase your sense of sadness and sorrow by accursed shaytaan. Rather you should be as Almighty Allah likes you to be, and accept His decree and thank Him for His blessings. Ponder the blessings that Almighty Allah has bestowed upon you still being single, and do not worry. Keep yourself busy with worship of Almighty Allah and make a program for yourself so that you can wake up for Fajr prayer and then read Qur?aan and azkaars and du?aas.
On the other hand, who knows delaying in getting marriage is good in favor of you and may be Almighty Allah grant you a husband who will make you queen of his castle. May Almighty Allah grant you such a caring and loving husband. Ameen.
Be patience and always seek help of Almighty Allah with sabar and salaath,