balance

Lifestyle Relationships
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how do u balance ur relationship/feelings between friends uve spent ur entire life with and relatives u love to death but only havent spent time with them…

who should mean more? why does one have to be more of importance..

ai hai…

:teary1:

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Just remembered this verse...
found it..

33:6."The Prophet is closer to the Believers than their own selves, and his wives are their mothers. Blood-relations among each other have closer personal ties, in the Decree of Allah. Than (the Brotherhood of) Believers and Muhajirs: nevertheless do ye what is just to your closest friends: such is the writing in the Decree (of Allah.. "

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StraWbeRy AaNkheIN

Daikhnay main kiasi lagti hain???

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thanks mystical... :) that makes a lot of sense...

ive been feeling totally bummed out recently..

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Re: balance

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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
who should mean more? why does one have to be more of importance..

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Friends. Your relos < note are basically stuck with you whereas your friends arn't. You need to give them a reason for tolerating you :p

I think I am kidding, ai hai.

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Re: Re: balance

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*Originally posted by 2GooD2BTruE: *

Friends. Your relos < note are basically stuck with you whereas your friends arn't. You need to give them a reason for tolerating you :p

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i did.. i apologised to them incase they thought i didnt love them enuff or much.

its difficult being me... i wanna trade places with someone

so ur saying, friends should be more important? hmm

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Re: Re: Re: balance

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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *

i did.. i apologised to them incase they thought i didnt love them enuff or much.

its difficult being me... i wanna trade places with someone

so ur saying, friends should be more important? hmm
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What I am trying to say is that it doesn't necessarily need to be a conscious decision. Mystical already mentioned who should be more important, technically. However, it all depends on how much your friends mean to you. If you connect well with them, I don't think it's wise to risk it just because you are expected to give more importance to your relatives. I am sure you know all that. In any case, if it comes to a point where you have to make a choice, take the time to explain the situation to your friends, they'll understand.

Communication is the key. Best of luck.

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hmm the thing is, there are friends and then there those friends who are practically ur brothers/sisters.. people u've grown up with, fought with and whove stuck by u and vice versa thru everything.. these type of friends are quite rare.

I've never grown up with cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents.. therefore i can only assume what kind of relationship one would have.. regardless of that, they mean the world to me.. cus they're my only blood relations.

Ive never had to choose b/w the two, cus both are adored and loved differently and both are special. But, when family starts to differentiate b/w them.. stating whose more important.. i get confused.

There shouldnt be a need to choose.

aah communiaction.. i knew something was missing :)

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Re: Re: Re: balance

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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *

its difficult being me... i wanna trade places with someone

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"Being someone else brings their own sets of problems" :-)

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^ true … :slight_smile: i just ate a huge muffin, i shouldnt have done that :bummer:

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see to illustrate my point , I am about to gorge on leftovers. I shouldn’t do that either :bummer:

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aww left overs... yummy..