Baggage

Lifestyle Relationships
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So i was thinking…

Lots of people got baggage coming into a shaadi…some have huge ones…some have small ones…

The question is…who is better at keeping the baggage out of the way in the new relationships??

Men or Women…or equal?? I am asking general perception of people here…

P.S…those who want to interpret it as man vs woman are welcome to stay out…because i am just asking this to understand the difference here…

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Of course the woman brings the baggage...she has the jahez!

:D

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I don't think it's if a woman or a man's better. I think it's a personality issue. Baggage affects no matter who you are, what age, what stage of life or whatever. Baggage needs to be dealt with and not be...pushed away. And who better to help you deal with it than your spouse?

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very true.

also, the person with the baggage should help themselves first. They need to get over what happened. the past is the past for a reason and you shouldn't base your future expectations or judgments based on what happened to you in your past. Yes, learn from your mistakes but say someone has trust issues, don't begin to question every little thing that your spouse does and make something out of nothing.

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I don't think there is one sex that is better at keeping it out of the way. I think it takes a strong and willing person to take care of issues from their past. I think at some point in time, we all have baggage whether we would like to admit it or not. We are not all strong and able to deal with problems ourselves. Yes, that is not good, because it can drag a relationship down, but I think if you have truly found someone that understands and loves you for you, then they will be able to be there for the support and help that their spouse/loved one needs. We are all human and not a single one of us are perfect. Hope this helps. =)

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Its not a gender thing...its a human thing.

Everyone needs time to grieve and deal with their baggage...if you dont...be it man or woman...you burden others with those problems.

Ive seen men get hung up over the past and women too.

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I would tend to say that women generally care more about telling how they feel and they feel the need to tell everything especially if they feel some kind of guilt , whereas for men, if they feel they don't have to say something then then they won't, but that's very general, of course it can depend on a lot of factors, like how strong the relationship is

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So women aren't really more emotionally attached compared to men?? (talking generally here)....

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the one that is samajhdar

why wud u head into a relationship while u know u havent emotionally recovered from the previous one.

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Life itself is a baggage and you want to get into new relationship full of life.

There is nothing wrong in entering relationship with a baggage. If you have a perfect match, you will share your spouse's baggage and he/she will share yours. Thats the basic concept of life/relationship/family.

Believe me if someone drops you to an island with your spouse where you dont have any baggage, no responsibilities, no complex relationships to nurse, any hard working to do, you will get bore with your life earlier that you do in normal circumstances.

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