If a guy feels the need to do istikhara to know if he see’s you in his future or not…should one be worried?
My feelings on the matter is that god has given us a heart to know whether or not the person is right for us…and am feeling slightly offended…who’s to say he has a bad dream…and tells me to leave…yet alone this could have been unrelated to istikhara…as everyone dreams
p.s there are circumstances surrounding this which I do not wish to discuss
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The way I heard it ..
real meaning of Istikhara is to ask for Khair in your decsion. When a choice looks like a good choice, then one should go with that, do isitikhara to ask for allah's khair in that choice and that is it.
Istikhara is not asking for Allah's opinion on any matter. Its a myth amongst people.
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so basically what TLK means is: the guy you are mentioning, catwoman, has no clue what he is talking about ...
and whatever your feelings are in regards to this situation are correct
The way I heard it ..
real meaning of Istikhara is to ask for Khair in your decsion. When a choice looks like a good choice, then one should go with that, do isitikhara to ask for allah's khair in that choice and that is it.
Istikhara is not asking for Allah's opinion on any matter. Its a myth amongst people.
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Yes, if you are learning towards one decision then it is pointless to do istikhara. It is not to ask for 'advice' from Allah or for him to show you some clear answer, but to help you if you are genuinely confused.
If he is doing Istikhara then he is clearly not sure whether he wants to be in his life, and wants someone or something else to make the decision for him so that it's out of his hands. Not a good thing.
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You know I agree that istikhara helps you choose. But sometimes you do an istikhara to make sure that the choice you are leaning towards is also the "right" one by consulting with Allah through an istikhara and asking for a sign.
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DO NOT be offended if he is doing ishtikhaara and seeking guidance from Allah swt. That is what it is meant for, it's a good way to know and yes, if there is a bad feeling and your marriage doesn't go ahead it's probably for the best because that maybe better for you, but inshallah it will tell you if it's good for you too...
don't be scared of the truth...
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My feelings on the matter is that god has given us a heart to know whether or not the person is right for us.....and am feeling slightly offended.............who's to say he has a bad dream...and tells me to leave....yet alone this could have been unrelated to istikhara....as everyone dream
Either you believe in an istikhara or not. If Allah has given you a heart to choose, and your heart is supposedly purely saying this is the person, then how can you worry about istikhara coming differently?
If you are associating both the heart's feelings as feelings Allah has put in your hearts, and an istikhara as a sign from Allah, obviously these two cannot be disparate.
If you are so concerned, do an istikhara yourself regarding the two of you. The answers cannot be disparate
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catwomen: are you gori (white) ?
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So its really to see if they are making the right decisions...thanks for th replies....but can this be muddled up with normal dreams?
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catwomen: are you gori (white) ?
yes I am a gori...a stupid gori for getting involved with such a muddled man
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no it cannot. once u do a neeyat to do istikhara, it is in Allah's hands and Allah will not give ambiguity.
So its really to see if they are making the right decisions...thanks for th replies....but can this be muddled up with normal dreams?
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some people do it before any marriage, love or arranged. some do it before any action
if it comes in your favor, itll go a long way in helping him convince his parents and family.
similarly, if its negative, it means your match will not be beneficial to either of u, so as someone said above, it is in ur best interest as well to leave him.
So its really to see if they are making the right decisions...thanks for th replies....but can this be muddled up with normal dreams?
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i love the goriwifelife’s blog
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Just curious how is a istikhara perfomed?
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You can pray two rakah nafil of istekhara after any fardh salah.
Read drood shareef before and after following duwa.
Make sure you visualize/think of your choices when reading underline words.
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If i was in your place catty i would feel offended.
Did he do istikhara before starting a relationship with you?
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Thanks for the advise...to be honest Im considering leaving him...maybe istikhara will be a blessing for us both so I can move on and allah will bring the man into my life my pure heart deserves
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Thanks for the advise...to be honest Im considering leaving him...maybe istikhara will be a blessing for us both so I can move on and allah will bring the man into my life my pure heart deserves
are you muslim too?
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If i was in your place catty i would feel offended.
Did he do istikhara before starting a relationship with you?
No not at all....he's been all talk....and I have been stupid for beleiving him....feel used, damaged and empty...
