does any of you ever felt like you are not what people think of you?
i feel like that all the tiime. i don’t think i am bad, infect i think i am pretty decent person. i love my friend, i have gone out of my way to help people. i try to be there for my friends in times of need. i respect elders, and genuinely love all the people i hang out with, i can’t be too faced, if i hang out with you means i really like you, and i won’t back bite about you, and if i don’t like you i am not going to pretend to be your friend.
but people think i am arrogant and rude (not all of them, but for some reason that is my first impression on people i guess)
i feel like i don’t know the right thing to say at the time and i would say something that could be offensive even if i don’t mean it at all.
i am a bit shy, if i feel someone doesn’t like me i can’t really go up to that person and say salam or what ever.
i see girls my age around who are loved by everyone, i try to see what they do which is so special but i don’t understand.
sometimes i get depressed over why everyone dislikes me in our community (ok, not everyone, but those aunties).
It is really hard to comment, sometime we are not what we see ourselves.
It always helps to see from other peoples prospectives as well, it is so easy to paint ourselves in best of the light and accuse/ wonder about others why do not understand us.
It is common for many peoples, as long as they feel they are doing right, they do not care how others think of them. Yet they want and expect love and respect from everyone.
It is all about communication (by verbal or action), one must learn how to convey positive impression.
There is nothing wrong, but if someone has wrong idea about you at first glance, but after knowing you for sometime people still do not understand then, i feel you have problem.
The only thing i could suggest, that sit down someone who is mature understanding and trustworthy for you. and ask them feedback. Hopefully it would help you to find a way to solve it.
You know what you are and those who matter to you should know...if there r few who just dont want to see the good in you, you can happily ignore them :-) They should not matter. I am not saying be disrespectful to them but just be yourself.