This wasn’t too long ago, and I think i even opened a thread about it–a man slapped a toddler at walmart and he was thrown in jail. I was shocked at the responses of people calling him a hero and the mother was a bad mother cz her kid was crying or screaming. people were even saying that if u can control ur kid from crying then dont have em.
I don’t think a kid throwing a tantrum makes one a bad mother…kids have off days, parents get tired sometimes, and a crying kid doesnt mean the end of the world nor it means parents have failed…
Am i being too sensitive about it or something? I admit I used to be very judgmental about these kinds of things but not so much any more. How do all of you parents deal with kids who throw tantrums whether in public or at home? In my case i see alot of this happening on the streets/bus/trains.
And another question…given that both mother and father have stuck around and not walked out on the marriage/family, what exactly is it meant by bad parenting?
Last week we my daugther and I were coming home after K-G.
We went to a store to get groceries and she got a small treat too.
And then she saw this backery, we go by that almost each day, she decided to stick her head on the glas to looked inside and saw lollypop and begged me to get her something as I didnt know she was after the lollypop, I thought well she might be hungery, so I will get her a bread/bun. There she rejects that and points at the lollypop and I don't allow her but get a bun and want to get out of there soon.
But she started throwing a trantrum like never before, I literally drag her out of the store and start pushing the baby's pram and have to hold her cycle in one hand too, there she is all crying ... I want I wannnnnnnnnnnt! and not going any further.
This is what I do when she very rarely acts like this, I ignore her and keep walking, she hates it but comes after me after a while and slowly stops acting like this, but if I give her attention, or am nice to her, she cries more, shouts more loudly or even tries to hit me. This is what I do IGNORE and IGNORE works fine and when we get home, I tell her what a bad girl she has been, then there is more crying and then lots of HUGGING and making up.
Seriously sometimes it's hard having small kids :-/
Once you have kids you'll see those types from time to time. They just hate kids and if they arent silent like little soldiers you get looks that could fry an egg. It doesnt happen often but it does happen.
Even the most well-behaved little angels have bad days. When I see a kid having a meltdown, I feel really bad for both the kid and the caregiver. Others want to string them both up by the toenails. The jerk who slapped the little girl went to jail I beleive. Good. He should also be sentenced to community service 20 hours a week in a pre-school.
Once you have kids you'll see those types from time to time. They just hate kids and if they arent silent like little soldiers you get looks that could fry an egg. It doesnt happen often but it does happen.
Even the most well-behaved little angels have bad days. When I see a kid having a meltdown, I feel really bad for both the kid and the caregiver. Others want to string them both up by the toenails. The jerk who slapped the little girl went to jail I beleive. Good. He should also be sentenced to community service 20 hours a week in a pre-school.
so what xactly is bad parenting vs just having a bad day?
is it emotional blackmailing? cz that’d mean alot of parents , especially mothers, are guilty of that…
i know a girl who, if their kids fall and hurt themselves while playing, the MOTHER gets the “ure a bad/lazy mother” daaNt.
Some people think a kid crying is the cause of bad parenting
then I know someone else, who, to keep her baby quiet, would put him in her lap fo ra few blocks while she drove. I dont know how often or for how long she did it but..
