Re: Bad Pakistani guy, or just normal?
This was just 2 months ago we slept together (yes, we were sleeping together too…very unIslamic…) and he said he was still in love with me…and we broke up…with him saying the relationship had caused so much guilt that he wanted to go travel, hopefully to clear his head, and come back with a ring.
It turns out a friend had set him up with another white girl…a Canadian convert wearing hijab who turned her back on western ideologies and basically became Arab and embraced everything about the culture..she speaks some Arabic and Urdu. And he proposed to her within a month! I cannot get over that we were together for 2 years, and we ended just 2 months ago and was JUST with me…and he is already engaged. Espec.** when he told me it was the culture and language gap that was the problem! I cannot figure out what he is thinking, as I am not as familiar with the Pakistani mindset…it makes me feel like our relationship meant nothing. Is this normal in the culture? Is this a rebound? Will he actually go through with this last minute marriage? Was he lying to me this whole time??**
The bit in bold was posibly the real reason, as well as obviously wanting to please his parents.. There are still many guys who think a girl who’s intimate with with them before marriage is “loose” and therefore not marriage material, never mind that they’re enjoying it themselves..
He thought you weren’t a good match but still wanted to sleep with you
