Something I’ve noticed about desis generally is the strong aversion regarding “backbiting”. So when people - or more specifically the ladies - get together, of course they talk. About who is doing what, who married who, who’s having babies etc etc. Newsy stuff but it can also ALL be considered to be backbiting. So where and how do you draw the line?
Re: "backbiting" - drawing the line
Something I've noticed about desis generally is the strong aversion regarding "backbiting". So when people - or more specifically the ladies - get together, of course they talk. About who is doing what, who married who, who's having babies etc etc. Newsy stuff but it can also ALL be considered to be backbiting. So where and how do you draw the line?
i consider it backbiting when you are talking bad about someone behind their back **or **you are airing out their personal information...information that others may not know. I never really considered talking about one getting married or having a baby backbiting since this is information that most likely has already been announced.
I could be wrong in my thinking though.
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I guess if they were to make speculations about your private life, or if u had trouble conceiving, where you met the spouse, etc…
I’d like to know which desis u come across who are averse to backbiting, b/c ive never met one 
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haha i know^
i think she means how it is considered bad…religiously speaking?
but yea…it’s not just a disease among desi women…women in general are like that…UNFORTUNATELY!
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Facts can never be considered backbiting, IMO. If you say, guess what she got married or they are having their first baby. It means that you can not hold a secret, but it is fact.
If you say, they are getting married, I wonder they had an affair before or I thought he was invloved with someone else. Speculations and unfounded statements that can neither be confirmed nor denied are in a way to bring down the person, backbiting.
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Yea i agree, its human nature to discuss things, bring along the life and matters of others, for the sake of gup shup, even if they are not into back biting thing. Sometimes its even harmless, with no negative intention. Even then, if you are discussing someone on their back, that should be something appreciative, i think it is fine this way, but if you intend to criticise, or whatever, like "its only true" or "this is just what happened" the thing ladies usually discuss to satisfy their taste buds, so to speak, it is something of backbiting which can go on to the extent of character assassination, since there is certainly very fine line that demarcates.