Oh whatever, they prolly ride their motorbikes around seaview
lol! That's what I was thinking... And then I unfortunately kept reading
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In the west all bachelor parties include strippers, drinking and other sexual escapades. Its a rite of passage. So now its come to Pakistan. Welcome to the globalization.
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I am very glad to see that im not that naive, and did not live in my own bubble. Im engaged and my fiance is a very shareef boy, we're best friends. His friend recently had a bachelor party and he asked me if im comfortable going. i said sure go. he said some of his friends friends are planning to get prostitutes for funs sake. they'll only dance and leave. no touching nothing more. i knowing some experience from stories so i told him that if they will be there so things will get dirty. He does not drink, but i told him if the guys really tease you then he can have a sip or two.
so after the party he told me things went crazy, all guys were dancing quite close and going in corners to touch them and all. he suspected that some guys even slept with them.
a day later after meeting his friends again he found out that they all had b-j with the prostitute, and they told him that he was a papu bacha there.
I was quite shocked and grossed by it. im sure he wanted to be a part of that too.. but what am i suppose to do? half the men there are engaged as well.
Note: all those guys there were very educated, working in good companies. not at all the street type boys who arent educated. one of them is a gold medalist in CA. im just so upset.
Well you kinda gave him a "free pass" for a night there didn't you.
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Well you kinda gave him a "free pass" for a night there didn't you.
If you read closely I did not give him a free pass for the night. .and he didn't even get in contact with the prostitutes. I told him he can only takea ffee sips if its a must
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I am very glad to see that im not that naive, and did not live in my own bubble. Im engaged and my fiance is a very shareef boy, we're best friends. His friend recently had a bachelor party and he asked me if im comfortable going. i said sure go. he said some of his friends friends are planning to get prostitutes for funs sake. they'll only dance and leave. no touching nothing more. i knowing some experience from stories so i told him that if they will be there so things will get dirty. He does not drink, but i told him if the guys really tease you then he can have a sip or two.
so after the party he told me things went crazy, all guys were dancing quite close and going in corners to touch them and all. he suspected that some guys even slept with them.
a day later after meeting his friends again he found out that they all had b-j with the prostitute, and they told him that he was a papu bacha there.
I was quite shocked and grossed by it. im sure he wanted to be a part of that too.. but what am i suppose to do? half the men there are engaged as well.
Note: all those guys there were very educated, working in good companies. not at all the street type boys who arent educated. one of them is a gold medalist in CA. im just so upset.
I don't want to be rude but a 'very shareef boy' and you allowing him to have a sip or two of alcohol and he being ok with it?
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So what do you all think I should do?
Ive spoken to him about it and he agrees that it's wrong.. and he won't do it but I find it very wrong to hang out in such a gathering.
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I don't want to be rude but a 'very shareef boy' and you allowing him to have a sip or two of alcohol and he being ok with it?
I understand you're point .. right now I don't want to discuss if he's shareef or not because maybe our standards are different. . :) Issue is something else
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So what do you all think I should do? Ive spoken to him about it and he agrees that it's wrong.. and he won't do it but I find it very wrong to hang out in such a gathering.
Then why even let him go?
1) There's booze there, either he takes one sip or chugs the whole bottle, it's equally bad
2) There's almost naked beautiful(questionable) women roaming around arousing men.
Obviously you are aware with the things that happen in bachelor parties and yet you still let him go, knowing very well that it is wrong.
Also, how much do you trust your husband? How do you know if he wasn't one of those that got a bj or whatever else? He might have lied to you saying he didn't do anything?
(I am not saying he did any such thing, just curious)
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I wouldn't even want him to associate with such morons let alone attend such a ghattiya party with them. Peer pressure is a problem for high school kids, not grown men.
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Now if a man attempted to control where his wife went or disapproved of his gatherings that would be him being controlling, possessive and so much more.
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He can tell me not to go to a strip club, that's perfectly fine with me.
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But this wasn't a strip club.
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But this wasn't a strip club.
Weather or not it being a strip club or somebody's house, there's still alcohol and strippers involved, it served the same purpose as a strip club in that situation.
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I am very glad to see that im not that naive, and did not live in my own bubble. Im engaged and my fiance is a very shareef boy, we're best friends. His friend recently had a bachelor party and he asked me if im comfortable going. i said sure go. he said some of his friends friends are planning to get prostitutes for funs sake. they'll only dance and leave. no touching nothing more. i knowing some experience from stories so i told him that if they will be there so things will get dirty. He does not drink, but i told him if the guys really tease you then he can have a sip or two.
so after the party he told me things went crazy, all guys were dancing quite close and going in corners to touch them and all. he suspected that some guys even slept with them.
a day later after meeting his friends again he found out that they all had b-j with the prostitute, and they told him that he was a papu bacha there.
I was quite shocked and grossed by it. im sure he wanted to be a part of that too.. but what am i suppose to do? half the men there are engaged as well.
Note: all those guys there were very educated, working in good companies. not at all the street type boys who arent educated. one of them is a gold medalist in CA. im just so upset.
sorry to bust your bubble but your fiance probably would not remain a shareef bacha as long as he is with the guys you mentioned above
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I am surprised to see very few have concerns against drinking. If they are non-muslim then never mind otherwise, well...
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nargis sings "manji thalay daang phairda" all night!
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Then why even let him go? 1) There's booze there, either he takes one sip or chugs the whole bottle, it's equally bad 2) There's almost naked beautiful(questionable) women roaming around arousing men. Obviously you are aware with the things that happen in bachelor parties and yet you still let him go, knowing very well that it is wrong.
Also, how much do you trust your husband? How do you know if he wasn't one of those that got a bj or whatever else? He might have lied to you saying he didn't do anything? (I am not saying he did any such thing, just curious)
I let him go because before the party, i had no idea things would get this wild. he called me arond 2 am to tell me that things are getting a bit out of hand. when he got home he called me first thing and told me everything, and told me hes really proud of himself cause he is above all this.
I didnt stop him because i dont want to stop him from things, that will just make him hide things from me. he went and came back without anything means alot to me. i believe in trusting. he trusts me and i trust him too.
I know he didnt get one because i trust him and i know him, when he lies it just comes out, and i know he wouldnt get it from a prostitute.
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Actually that is incorrect, it’s a misconception that all bachelor or bachelorette parties have strippers.
This is not a new development either. Here is an article from a while back noting the same thing. I remembered this one because I know one guy quoted there from my philly days.
Bachelor parties about bonding, not strippers - Travel - Active Travel | NBC News
And a more recent one in UK
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So what do you all think I should do? Ive spoken to him about it and he agrees that it's wrong.. and he won't do it but I find it very wrong to hang out in such a gathering.
- So what are you thinking of doing? Is there anything that you really, really want to say to him or do?
- Do you know how he feels about his friends now, after this incident?
I know people are saying that he should cut all ties with these guys, maybe he should. Are these the type of guys who went overboard once and may have regrets and would never do that again?
If they do it again, how does your BF feel about their behavior?
Would your BF succumb to peer pressure? Could he maintain his friendship with them and still live with his values? It also depends if these guys are his best buds. Cutting all ties with your best buds is hard. Maybe he can pick and choose the type of events that he goes to.
Seriously, it's never a good idea to go an event where they have sex workers. Come on, they are paid to have sex with people. Why on earth would you or your BF assume that there would be no sex happening when they have hired sex workers for entertainment?
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as far as i'm concerned:
dholki = bachelor party
parties with drinking/drugs/strippers = desperate men trying to find excuses to participate in illegal activities in teh name of "modernism"