It’s because people forget that it is Allah who is in control of such things and as a result they stupidly (not necessarily with malicious intent) ask…“Why are you not preggers yet?” For those who are single, it’s “Why are you not married yet?”
We desi Muslims often tell others, “Bas, Allah ki marzi.” Yet, strangely we forget this VERY SAME LINE when we ask people questions about their personal lives. You’re a strong woman. Don’t let their questions and lack of tact “stress” you out. Your life does not run according to THEIR time schedule. Your life doesn’t even run according to YOUR time schedule. When Allah wills it, it will be. It’s so easy for others to ask when you’ll pop a baby out, but you’re the one who will have the enormous responsibility of raising it. Concentrate on strengthening your marriage. And the next time someone asks, just smile and say, **“Whenever Allah wills. Life runs according to His schedule not mine or yours.” **It’s a simple and nicely worded response that very very very subtly makes the other person feel slightly stupid.