Re: Baby shower
I would say Make everything Blue at the party :~)
Decorate the area where you are planning on throwing her a shower. Theme should be blue or yellow they both are usually fine. You can especially arrange her chair/sofa in a beautiful setting, vase on both sides with beautiful blue flowers.
*I know there are few rituals that certain family has - i think your mother can take care of that part.
*Make sure you invite all of her in laws otherwise she will never hear end of it.
*I would suggest as far as food part goes just do some thing light. For example make good 7-10 different items with Tea instead of actual food. That gets too boring . Ex. dhari barey, Alo ke samosey, keeme ke samosey, keeme ki biscut [pillsbury ones], bhel puri, gool gapey, fruit chat, fresh fruit tray, spring rolls make these vegetarian, different type of fruit jucie since its summer, You can use lassi or saknajween i like to put mint in mine - gives a very different flavor], Bake these together.. i dont know what excatly they are called but its mixed with dorritos- Doritos sour and cream and regular one], salsa [mild one], sour cream, olives, cheddar cheese, onion, tomatos and more salsa. It gives a wonderful flavor and nice snake for a party.
Everything from paper plates, napkins etc should have some sort of a baby boy theme.
When you go to buy the cake let them know its for a baby shower and they will take care of you.
Do a baby shower registry for her :D if not ---then when you are inviting people you can give out a list of items etc this way they know what to bring etc....
I hope i helped :D