baby led weaning

so carrying on from my prev post on starting solids for babies…

my baby started purees of fruit and cereals at 4 months and it was going ok .. i mean how hard can it be to swallow thin liquid similar to milk…
until one fine day when he turned 6 months he started to get fussy and mealtimes turned into hell…

introducing level 2 food with slightly more texture and slight lumps was where it just went disastrous… he kept choking (later on i learned it was gagging, huge diff)… and i would get scared…

the odd thing was he swallowed hand mashed food just fine.. like banana or bread… he would still gag but would either spit it out or manage to clear his throat and swallow the pce… and he wanted food off of the table.. he would eat a carrot just like that, raw.. but when i would offer it to him baby friendly .. he would throw a fit
i was getting a feeling he just doenst like mashed or pureed baby stuff…

was searing online for some help when i came across a book called baby led weaning by Gill Rapley but was a bit wary.. cuz it said that the baby is incharge and would eat what it wants when it wants… that came in the way of my being a mom and what comes naturally to me, FORCE FEEDING!

but i dont know why..i ordered it off of amazon.. started following it 2 days ago.. and oh jesus.. he is eating our food.. well toned down… but he is eating everything.. carrot, pasta, meat, everything… even things he hated in baby form..

initially it was just one huge mess… with food in all places.. but the he learned that he needs to put it in his mouth

the book talks bout how babies dont relate food to fulfilling hunger… for them only milk does.. food is just to experiment… therefore u dont solid feed a baby on an empty stomach which was the opp of what i was told… i always fed him and then gave him milk …

there was also a bit bout how we actually handicap our babies by not letting them do what comes naturally like breast feeding, crawling, walking.. they are fully capable of eating too.. just takes time… there is no need to start with purees or thin liquids… if babies are taught to eat solids from get go (though in soft form for beginners), it develops their chewing ability which is imp for speech development… and babies that are kept on puree for too long actually take longer to develop the chewing instinct… and may even forego family meals when they grow up…

studies also show that forced feeding with a spoon makes the child a fussy eater later on… with baby led weaning, since the baby is in control, the chance of that fussiness is decreased.. this i can vouch for… he wont have steame mashed brocolli from a spoon but he will gladly have it if i let him hold it and he eat it himself!

things got much easier… im making all sorts of food for him now.. it takes time cuz i do make sepearte things for him on most days since our own food is likeed spicy…

but mommies here… i would HONSESTLY recommend trying it.. search online and if u feel like trying it out.. buy the book.. its not epxensive
meal times are SUCH a pleasure now!

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WONderful news khawateen! I have an ongoing nightmare with my eldest and eating, going on 8 years now. I know how very hard it can be.

My sonhad reflux which wasnt diagnosed until he was over 2 years old even though I asked at every single visit. He had no symptoms other than refusal to eat (because he never ate enough to exhibit "textbook" symptoms). And with the reflux going undiagnosed for so long, he learned that "eating makes me hurt".

IF you can get your little one to eat enough and to do this willingly then you're on the right track! But just be aware that reflux can flare, esp when teeth are coming in.

But its wonderful that you're winning the battle and I hope it stays that way!

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he has 2 teeth and thankfully he didnt have any issues with teething...

had reflux which just went away at the beginning of 7 months (he will turn 8 months morrow) like the doc said... im soo soo happy bout that... he was a happy spitter.. the kind that rubbed his feet in his own vomit and giggled....

so far so good... lets pray it stays that way.. though there are days when he just wont open up even for himself.. oh well... its comfort to know they dont need major eating until they turn 1 :D

i SO know what u mean with fussy eating... and its not even true how they say, just let them eat what they like.. what if ure kid only likes pasta or jello!!

i really dont have any advice for u.. but i sure hope u figure something out... mealtimes shouldnt be torture for parent nor child... sighz

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i had a similar experience...my daughter took to purees really well from the start and i didnt have any problems with her. But my son haaated being spoon fed...every meal was a struggle from the start. We force fed him for a few months and then I decided to give up because it was too hard and I didnt want him to associate such negative experiences with eating. For a long time he wasnt eating anything, only breastmilk...but then slowly we started giving him whatever we were eating..and he was really interested in those foods.

Now he's a year and still doesnt eat a large quantity compared to other babies his age, but at the same time he's not fussy or angry about eating...he enjoys eating the little he eats and slowly he's eating more and more. I never force him and let him eat as he wants..it's the only way that works with him...every baby is different. Im praying in the next year it increases alot because I dont know how I will ever wean him from breastmilk until he starts eating more!!!

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its a very slow start from what im reading adeela... my baby took forever.. he just played with the food.. now its little bits here and there... but as the book says.. it takes anywhere from 10 months to a yr and some more until baby can properly eat a full meal.. just keep up with what ure doing.. he isnt startving.. as long as his weight is growing its fine... slowly he will start eating more.. and then u will notice how he has dropped a feed.. its easier for formula fed babies cuz mom can see that the baby has missed one of its feeds as its such an unnatural way of feeding and coutable.. though breast fed babies have it easier when weaning to food as they hav ealready tasted all sorta spices etc through the mothers milk...

keep it up :)

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khawa what foods should we offer initially and how? .. please share .... i cant find this book online :( .. live in karachi, cant order from amazon! :/

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how old is ure baby?

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he is 3 mths old mA .. on exclusive breast feed .. wil start weaning when he'l be 6 mths iA ..

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he is way too young to be having solids love....

here in denmark we start at 4 months.. but the baby led weaning im talkin bout is strictly for babies above the 6 month mark...

so u wait it out for the time being ok... enjoy it cuz once the solids start.. its a totally diff ball game!